Good Morning or is it evening where you are?
I got up at 5 am today with really inspiring thoughts, dreams and ways to get to them and I thought I just have to share all this with you. So I wrote my heart out – unfortunately in livejournal and not here – and after all this the b…… entry disappeared when I clicked on one of the questions marks on my blogging page.
I mean really, shouldn’t a question be opened in another window as it is on other services? Or could they not at least have warned me? What a frustrating way to go into such a wonderful day. I was really inspired when I got up but now…
Fortunately frustration never stays with me for long so just voicing my frustration to you makes me smile again. But I have run out of time to give you more of my thoughts so please forgive me for this short and not too pleasant or insightful entry and I will speak to you another day about following your dream. I have to run to follow mine now -.)
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I am being asked all the time what makes Life Coaching so successful. My answer is: It’s efficiency.
But why is it so efficient? Because it is action based and forward oriented while most other self development tools look at the past and try to find out why we are who we are today.
Obviously past behavior may be a good predictor of future behavior, but it’s never more than a tendency because we can change that. The past is over and the future is unknown. But our past does not equal our future. It will only affect it to the degree WE ALLOW it. This is what makes us humans so unique.
Evidently the past DOES matter, but only to the extent we let it. It matters because we can (and we should) reflect on it and learn from it. But it does not have to rule the rest of our lives.
You can change tomorrow by what you do today. What you think, what you believe and the actions you take or don’t take will affect your future. But change is not so easy and this is where coaching can help significantly.
A coach sees the coachee from a different, an outside perspective. Because of this detachment s/he can ask the right questions so the coachees are able to find new and better answers for themselves. Coaching is not so much about giving advice. It is more about helping the client find their own solutions before building an action plan together. Coachees are then supported while executing this plan.
You may not be able to control ALL the events in your life, but you can drastically increase your odds of success by using a coach whenever you are on a crossroad of your life.
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When you think about Confidence, what do you think of first? Is Confidence really important?
Until only a few years ago I was a fairly shy, introverted female – always driven to succeed but never
really succeeding. The reason was my lack of confidence and self esteem. In my eyes most people were better. I was never good enough and drove myself to study further, to work more but however much I did it never felt enough.
Have you ever have disempowering thoughts like that?
What do thoughts like that do to you? They stop you – they stop you to really achieve your dreams. They stop you to let your true light shine through. They stop you from living your true potential.
Less than a month ago I was speaking at a large conference in Sweden.I was really well prepared, the technician knew what to do – everything seemed perfectly arranged. But things rarely go that smoothly. The speaker before me ran overtime, the technician had not even started the laptop as had been pre-arranged; the recording equipment did not work…
The room filled up while we were fiddling about with the equipment and I hate it when a speaker is not ready for his audience. They lose me there and then and in this case I was the one not ready – arrgh! The introducer stumbled through my introduction in such an uninspiring way that I was happy when he was done and just as the technician finally managed to get my presentation on the screen the computer shut down again.
Armageddon in my head. All the preparation for this moment had gone up in smoke. Inwardly I was between fuming and crying but then I took a decision.I decided to start no matter what, knowing that I am strong, knowing that I am good enough to get my points across without any technical equipment. In that moment I stood tall and spoke from the depth of my soul aware that the audience deserved to see me at my BEST. And they did.
Would this have happened 10 years ago I would have been too upset to concentrate on the need of my audience. Why? Because I would have beaten myself up for everything that was happening. I would also have been very angry with the technician for not making sure everything worked as needed. I would have found fault.
What would the result have been? At best a mediocre presentation because audience can feel where you stand. If you are inside or in this case beside yourself they will not appreciate you because you do not appreciate them. Being able to consciously take a deep breath and step out of chaos into the feeling of calm confidence has changed my life enormously and it will change yours too.
Today I know who I am and that knowledge gives me a strong confidence and healthy self-esteem. In how many chaotic situations do you make the empowering decision over the disempowering one? The decision to stand tall and give your best overcoming any chaos or challenge because you know who you are? Because you are centered within yourself? Because you have belief in yourself! Because you KNOW for a fact that you are strong enough to overcome anything!
Belief creates facts so start believing in yourself in order to create those facts you have always wanted in your life.
Life let’s you only get as far as your confidence permits. That is a proven fact you can see all around you. Nobody applies for a higher position unless they are confident that they can fill it. Nobody starts their own business unless they are confident in making it a success. Nobody flirts with someone they are attracted to unless they believe they have a chance.
I could give you hundreds of examples but for now let this be enough. Widen your boundaries, overcome your fears and doubts and consciously build your confidence every single day. Dare to do things you have never dared before because that will give you plenty of opportunities to stand tall to show the world (and yourself) who you are.
To your success
In the last few years Life Coaching has become more and more popular but as it is a new profession most people don’t know enough about it to decide whether it is right for them. We hope this article will clarify what coaching is so you can make an educated decision for yourself.
We have all heard of sports coaches. In the old days they were the sports “trainers” but today all high performance sport stars have a mind coach; a person who strengthens their belief in themselves and in their ability to win. Even though Life coaching is not primarily about winning or losing, it is about “winning” the life you choose to live.
Life coaching has become so popular because many of us are tired of doing what we thing we “should” do. We have become aware that we have a choice to do what we want to do!
Be aware that coaching is not a therapy. In therapy the goal is to give you an understanding of your past in order for you to have the awareness of how you became who you are today. Coaching is movement oriented and action based. Where therapy looks back, life coaching looks forward – towards your future and a “better”, more fulfilled YOU.
Your Coach will assist you to identify specific goals and objectives and will help you to stay focused so you can reach those goals faster. A good coach will provide you with the tools, structure and perspective to make the journey easier for you and she/he will make you accountable.
Did you know that people who are accountable are 7 to 10 times more successful than others?
Coaching works in all aspects of your life from relationships, to lifestyle, to career, health and wealth improvements. It focuses on strengthening your skills and improving and trusting your abilities. It helps you to meet and exceed your potential in order to be your best.
Coaching is similar to consulting. Yet, where consulting frequently provides only temporary solutions, coaching is consistent and on going. The Coach stays with the clients to help implement new habits, skills, and changes. Another distinction is that consultants usually give advice and tell people what to do while coaches focus on assisting their clients to discover the solutions themselves. Or in other words, we don’t give you the fish; we teach you how to fish.
We focus on what you want to achieve and help you maintain your commitment to yourself and your dreams and visions. We look at where you are now in relation to where you want to be. Are your ideas and goals based on your true core values? What are your strength and weaknesses and how can we use this knowledge to your advantage?
Our society is looking for a deeper meaning as we begin to understand that we grow from the inside out. More and more people are freeing their time and resources to invest in themselves because they realize how simple it can be to accomplish something big if you “get a little help from a friend”.
So why not use a trusted friend? As wonderful as it is to have good friends, they are emotionally involved and do not have the objectivity and distance necessary to see where you stand and what type of assistance you need. Have your friends or family ever been shocked because you made a move in a new direction? Have they ever told you that something can’t be done or is not done the way you want to do it? Quite frequently our well meaning friends and family are the “dream stealers” not the supporters we need. Because of the emotional distance a coach is a trusted professional who works with you on improving the most important aspects of your life.
Why would you want a Coach?
You might want a coach because…
- you want to grow
- you want to be more productive
- you want to become more balanced
- you want to find new and more efficient ways to do things
- you want to make a mark
- you want to define and live a life of purpose
- you want new perspectives
- you want to change certain aspects of your life
- you want to reach new goals
- YOU WANT MORE!
How long do you have to commit to your coach?
It is not so much a commitment to your coach as a commitment to yourself. Give yourself time; 3-6 months at least. What has taken you a lifetime to become cannot be changed in a day. However sometimes even one single session can make a life changing difference.
If you need help on a specific short term project, you should consider one-on-one coaching to help you accomplish this specific goal faster. If you need motivation and a step by step process to move you out of feeling stuck and unfulfilled, do group coaching.
Why does life coaching work?
- The synergy created between you and your coach creates momentum.
- Better and clearly defined goals support you to move towards your “dream life” faster and with less effort.
- You develop new skills and habits which translate into higher success and a more balanced life.
There is never a better day than today to start your “new” life. Sign in for your Membership at www.yoursuccesscycle.com
TO YOUR SUCCESS
Author and Master Coach
I just met Vincent Genna and like what he does. It is very much in line with what I believe and teach. Therefore I will post it here over the next few weeks but if you prefer you can go directly to his blog too. It is http://www.vincentgenna.com
Here is your first exercise for week 1:
Everything in life was NOT created by thought. It was created by BELIEFS. If thoughts alone were our creating powers, than all the screaming babies in the world would have no voices, and everyone who cut you off on the road would be dead! We have a lot of thoughts every day, including daydream and fantasy thoughts. They don’t all come to fruition after having them. That’s because they are not powered by anything. Beliefs empower your thoughts! Thoughts focus the energy we create from our beliefs. Since, we are connected and one with a Greater Power, Higher Source, Unlimited all Loving Being, God, or whatever you wish to call it, we create everything in our lives either consciously or subconsciously. I am attempting to help you learn how to create your life consciously. That way, you will create the things you want, rather than the things you don’t want.
Edgar Cayce was a famous contemporary “Sleeping Prophet” who said, “Spirit is life; mind is the builder; and physical is the result.” In other words, what you believe (spirit), gives life and empowers what you think (mind). And what you think, creates your physical world (result). So, for your first exercise this week, you’re going to empower your desire statement by believing it is a real part of you that you truly believe you want.
Part 1-Read your desire statement out loud, not just silently in your head, and say it with as much feeling and desire as you can. Feel it as a real and meaningful desire, not just as a flippant want. Change it from being just words, to being a real part of you. Say it with passion!
Part 2-Then close your eyes and envision the pad or piece of paper you wrote your desire statement down on in your mind. Then, make yourself see a cord coming out of the pad or piece of paper and connecting right to where your belly button is, just like an umbilical cord! It doesn’t make a difference what type of cord it is, but I want you to see your desire statement actually attached to your body and as if you are feeding your words your energy. When you are visualizing this, you can see electrical energy radiating from your body to your desire statement, light radiating to it, or even blood. Whatever you choose or want, just see your desire statement attached to you and you feeding it. It is best to attach it to your belly button because that is actually your solar plexus chakra and where your energy flow converges.
This is how we were fed and kept alive in utero, so that how we are going to feed our desire statement for this purpose. I know it may sound funny, but try to make it as real as possible for you. It’s ok if your visualization goes in and out. Just keep trying to see it as best you can. The better you can do this, the more you will be empowering your desire. Remember, do both parts of this as often as you can throughout the entire day for the whole week, and let it be one of the last things you do before you go to bed tonight. It becomes easier each day. Also, jot down anything you notice during the day that may be different, as well.
Good luck to all!
I second that! Have a wonderful day and an even better life!
We are getting ready to create a miracle in our life. Are you following us?
From Vincent Genna’s blog: http://www.vincentgenna.com/2011/05/17/create-a-miracle-week-1/
I only have a few requests if you choose to participate:
1) You have to take this seriously and really want something to happen, or at least be willing to give it a concerted effort;
2) You need to create and write down a desire statement. This is a concise written description of exactly what you want to have happen by the end of the 5 days. It could be for clarity about a decision you need to make, or even a job opportunity. Heck, if you’re trying to sell a house, it could even be for that. Just make your desire statement as clear as you can with as many details as you want to go along with it. The more detailed your desire statement is, the more chance there is of something happening for it. Just make it reasonable! Winning the lottery may be beyond the scope of a 5-day miracle!
3) Then each day, pay attention to any changes or signs or thoughts that might be about your desire and JOT THEM DOWN in a journal or on a piece of paper you keep. This is very important! Writing things down helps you to keep your eyes and ears open, so more help can come. You certainly don’t want something significant to get by you without notice because you are caught up in life;
4) You need to read my mini-ebook, About You, (go to above website to get the book) to start you off in the right frame of mind. It will take you no more than 15 minutes to read. You can get a free copy of it here, on the right. Feel free to pass it along to anyone else you think might benefit from it.
5) Finally, you have to commit to completing this experiment from start to finish. If you stop midway, you will never know if something great could have happened for you. I am not going to disrupt your day with crazy requests that will make it so difficult for you to participate, so give it the full four weeks.
See how simple that is, and won’t it finally be great to tap into all you are capable of doing? Ask your friends and family to listen in, as well. The more people we get to participate in “Create a Miracle”, the more powerful this will be. Listen in to my radio show each Monday, at 1:00pm EST (or Barbara’s radio show each Tuesday at 1:00pm EST) and call in with any questions or comments. Let’s discuss anything you may be having difficulty with.
I invite you to follow Vincent’s recommendations.
All in Love
CREATE A MIRACLE
Did you know that the most key ingredient in making everything we attempt become a reality, that the most fundamental and innate ability we have, that the most talked about and taught practice in every self-help and spiritual book, that the number one most important element of our spiritual and physical existence, most of us have completely lost tract of? Before I tell you what that innate ability is, I would like to conduct an experiment to attempt to bring that most important trait back into light.
With your help, I am going to attempt to create a miracle in your life! If you would like to change or add something in your life, get clarity about something about a decision, see a dream come to fruition, get a promotion at work, or heck even get a new job, then this is where you need to be for the next four weeks. It will not take much of your time each day at all. In fact, it will help you to practice some of those things- you-should-be-doing-everyday-for-your-well-being anyway.
Here is what is going to happen. Every Monday for the next four weeks, I am going to give you a VERY simple exercise to practice each day for the week. THEY WILL BE SIMPLE PRACTICES, THOUGH THEY MAY BE DIFFICULT TO DO CORRECTLY!
Here is my declaration. Within the next four weeks, if you follow ALL I say to do and with passion and belief, you will begin to see your desire or dream coming to pass! Suddenly and unexpectedly, over the next four weeks, or possibly sooner, you will see or hear your desire begin to come to fruition! Give me just four weeks of your time and heart, and I will give you the ability to create a miracle in your life! It’s that simple!
It works all the time for everyone who puts the time in. Let’s discuss that point for a minute… Several people told me in the past when I did this that they wanted to do this or started to do this, but then ran into time constraints. Really? You can’t take the time to create a miracle for yourself? There are four primary reasons why you won’t have the time for this:
1) you already have all the miracles you want or need. Really? Then you need to be a guest on my show to help others create their dreams!
2) you don’t believe you can create anything. If you are on my website reading this, something is telling you this may be a possibility. Besides, you may be tired of being a victim in your life. Now you want to be an active participant controlling the moves;
3) you’re afraid you won’t be able to make it happen. Self-doubt is a very normal fear. However, it speaks to a deeper issue of not believing in yourself and who you truly are. Then for sure, you need to be doing this and listening to my show. Let’s conquer that fear together! And,
4) you’re afraid it will happen! In actuality, this is the majority of people’s fear. As Marianne Williamson wrote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” This is very true. Admitting this gives you the responsibility of having to live up to being co-creators with God, and that scares the hell of you! You know the saying, “Ignorance is bliss?” Here is why this is a realistic fear. You have gone through your life learning how to cope with what has come along. Ok, so you dealt with the good as well as the garbage that has come your way. If you acknowledge that you had the ability all along that you could have created it differently, that would make you kick yourself where the sun don’t shine even more than you already do. Also, since you have learned to cope without creating the life you wanted or fulfilling your dreams, you would go through such disappointing pain if you were able do it once, but then lost the ability to do it again. So, you’d rather not try altogether. WELL, IT’S TIME TO GET OVER YOURSELF AND START LIVING UP TO WHO YOU TRULY ARE-MAGNIFICENT AND POWERFUL BEYOND BELIEF! You know you are miserable NOT being who you are.
Whichever one of these four fears you fit in, what do you got to lose to try? The least that will happen is that you will be no worse off than you are today, but you will have an amazing stress-reduced four weeks from my exercises. The best can be is that you learn how to create the life and miracles you want!
To be continued tomorrow…