Mood Boost

Here are a few great techniques that will beat the blues in a flash

Monday morning blues?

An argument with your better half?

Your boss is behaving obnoxiously?

Many reach for a bar of chocolate, ice cream or even alcohol but that is not the best way to deal with a foul mood. Here are my favorite techniques to boost that mood in the order I use them:

1. Have a gratitude list.

In my eyes adopting an attitude of gratitude is the surest way to happiness. Amy Wood, author of ‘Life Your Way’ says “The most effective way I know of to shake a bad mood is to brainstorm everything possible that you’re grateful for and write it down,” She suggests starting with broad strokes, like being thankful the sun is shining or that you’re breathing. “You’ll find that once you get the ball rolling, more and more ideas will come to you. Studies actually show that it’s impossible to feel gratitude and unhappiness simultaneously. That’s why this strategy works so well, and so quickly!”

I recommend having a small gratitude journal at hand so whenever you are feeling low pick it up and not only read what you have already written but keep adding new things/moments you are grateful for.

2. Practice a random act of kindness

Doing nice things for other people will make you feel good about yourself. Try giving a radiant smile at a total stranger and you will see the effect it has not only on them but also on you. It’s fast and totally free of charge. Or give a compliment to someone, or hold a door open fora stranger and do all of this with a smile. All of these acts of kindness lead to positive thinking about yourself, and usually get a positive response from the other person too.

3. Make yourself laugh

It’s so easy today to find something to laugh about. Just go to YouTube and watch your favorite comedians or some of the other funny videos. Anything that will make you laugh is good.

4. Read inspirational stories or quotes

This is something that I do quite frequently – not only when I feel down. It always inspires and motivates me. There are lots of great stories on this blog and of course in my books “To be or not to be – the choice is YOURS!” and “TO BE – Inspired! 1001 Inspirational Quotes” or the “Moments To BE”. You can find several of them throughout this blog.

5. Change your physiology

Our emotions change our physiology and when we consciously change our physiology it works also the other way around – we change our emotions. When we are feeling low we normally slump forward and look down. You now do the opposite. You stand up and throw your arms in the air as you often see athlets do when they win. Make fists and keep your arms up while looking up at the ceiling or sky with a big smile on your face (even if at first you don’t feel like smiling). I can assure you that you cannot think negative thoughts when you stand like this for more than a minute. You might feel like an idiot at first but your mood will perk up. That’s for sure. 

6. Practice mindfulness.

“If you’re in a slump, you may also be stuck ruminating about the past or worrying about the future. Both of these thoughts are nonproductive,” says Simon Rego, director of Psychology Training at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx. Instead, he suggests practicing mindfulness, which means being present in the moment without judgment. “Try taking five minutes and eating your meal in a mindful way, paying attention to how it looks, smells and tastes with each bite, before swallowing it. Or take a quick mindful walk, considering the sights, smells, sounds and temperature with each step.” By focusing on the present, you’re less likely to dwell on the outside circumstances that are making you unhappy.

This is what I mean with focusing on what you want and not what you don’t want anymore. Focus on the good there is and on the “better” you want. Focus on the solution and not on the problem. Worry, doubts and fears are the killers of our dreams. The good news is that these thoughts and the emotions they create are born in our own mind and consequently that means that we can turn them around and start thinking thoughts that nurture and support us.

Start today! RIGHT NOW!

And now my last tip. BREATH!

I know we do this all day long but there are many ways of breathing. When you feel low you usually breath slow and shallow. When you are nervous or afraid you breath fast and into your chest. Both don’t give you much oxygen but your brain thrives on oxygen so to relax and help our brain we need to breath deep into our diaphragm, into our lower belly. Taking a few deep and long breath can  relax you as well as lift you out of a slump.

So right now, take a few deep breath and enjoy life!

 

 
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Be Pro-Active!

“We cannot cross the sea merely by staring at the water.”

Rabindranath Tagore, Indian Nobel Prize Winner for Literature

No, we have to move, we have to take action and implement what we have learned from the past. Do not let yourself be stopped by your nagging self doubts or your relatives and friends. Each have their reason BUT you have your own reason for doing things your way. Do not let people drown your dreams. They are yours and you have the resources to make them come true even if the others could not!

You are able to do anything you want to do. You just have to trust yourself and sometimes take a leap of faith = believe that all will come to pass. Once you make a firm decision that you will really go for it, the right action plan will follow so don’t focus on the how, focus much more and the what and the why.

 

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And More Questions to Ponder

  1. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
  2. If not now, then when?
  3. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
  4. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
  5. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
  6. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
  7. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
  8. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
  9. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
  10. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

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More Questions to Ponder

Here are more of the promised questions to ponder

  1. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
  2. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
  3. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
  4. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
  5. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
  6. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
  7. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
  8. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
  9. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
  10. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?

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Questions to ponder

In the next few days I will share some questions to ponder. There are no right or wrong answers. There are your answers. That’s all. The important thing is that you give them some time and thought.

And sometimes asking the right questions is already the answer.

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
  10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section below. I will post more questions over the next few days.

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Power of Subconscious

We already talked about the power of your subconscious thought. Today we want to learn to inject positive thoughts.

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This is an ongoing process and you have not failed until you stop trying.

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