Good Morning or is it evening where you are?
I got up at 5 am today with really inspiring thoughts, dreams and ways to get to them and I thought I just have to share all this with you. So I wrote my heart out – unfortunately in livejournal and not here – and after all this the b…… entry disappeared when I clicked on one of the questions marks on my blogging page.
I mean really, shouldn’t a question be opened in another window as it is on other services? Or could they not at least have warned me? What a frustrating way to go into such a wonderful day. I was really inspired when I got up but now…
Fortunately frustration never stays with me for long so just voicing my frustration to you makes me smile again. But I have run out of time to give you more of my thoughts so please forgive me for this short and not too pleasant or insightful entry and I will speak to you another day about following your dream. I have to run to follow mine now -.)
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I am being asked all the time what makes Life Coaching so successful. My answer is: It’s efficiency.
But why is it so efficient? Because it is action based and forward oriented while most other self development tools look at the past and try to find out why we are who we are today.
Obviously past behavior may be a good predictor of future behavior, but it’s never more than a tendency because we can change that. The past is over and the future is unknown. But our past does not equal our future. It will only affect it to the degree WE ALLOW it. This is what makes us humans so unique.
Evidently the past DOES matter, but only to the extent we let it. It matters because we can (and we should) reflect on it and learn from it. But it does not have to rule the rest of our lives.
You can change tomorrow by what you do today. What you think, what you believe and the actions you take or don’t take will affect your future. But change is not so easy and this is where coaching can help significantly.
A coach sees the coachee from a different, an outside perspective. Because of this detachment s/he can ask the right questions so the coachees are able to find new and better answers for themselves. Coaching is not so much about giving advice. It is more about helping the client find their own solutions before building an action plan together. Coachees are then supported while executing this plan.
You may not be able to control ALL the events in your life, but you can drastically increase your odds of success by using a coach whenever you are on a crossroad of your life.
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Last night I watched the film “Troy” on TV. I had seen it once before on DVD and the one scene that had stuck out for me was the scene where Brad Pitt sprang at the giant he was supposed to fight and slit his throat without a moment of hesitation. It had been the only way to win.
On the TV version they had cut this scene out. For me it changed the whole film. Why? Because I always try to learn something and the lesson I got from Achilles the first time I saw the film was
When you have made a decision to do something do it whole heartedly and without hesitation!
Of course I don’t mean to slit anyone’s throat, on the contrary, but have you ever noticed that the truly great movies – the ones that become classics and usually are nominated for Academy Awards – have one thing in common?
Do you know what that one thing is?
They have unforgettable moments with a strong message in them.
Seems obvious, yet these moments can be quite subtle – so subtle that we may overlook them, both in the movies and, more importantly … in our lives.
What makes these moments so extraordinary is that they touch the core of who we are. When we are attentive they can provide the shift we need in the right direction. They are wings for our spirits, for our longing to dare and move forward – out of our comfort zone and into that new space we might fear but at the same time want so much.
Look into the moments that stop you, become aware of why something failed and learn your lesson from it so that next time you will make a better decision and “go for gold” whole heartedly and without hesitation.
Life is great – if only we let it be!
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When you think about Confidence, what do you think of first? Is Confidence really important?
Until only a few years ago I was a fairly shy, introverted female – always driven to succeed but never
really succeeding. The reason was my lack of confidence and self esteem. In my eyes most people were better. I was never good enough and drove myself to study further, to work more but however much I did it never felt enough.
Have you ever have disempowering thoughts like that?
What do thoughts like that do to you? They stop you – they stop you to really achieve your dreams. They stop you to let your true light shine through. They stop you from living your true potential.
Less than a month ago I was speaking at a large conference in Sweden.I was really well prepared, the technician knew what to do – everything seemed perfectly arranged. But things rarely go that smoothly. The speaker before me ran overtime, the technician had not even started the laptop as had been pre-arranged; the recording equipment did not work…
The room filled up while we were fiddling about with the equipment and I hate it when a speaker is not ready for his audience. They lose me there and then and in this case I was the one not ready – arrgh! The introducer stumbled through my introduction in such an uninspiring way that I was happy when he was done and just as the technician finally managed to get my presentation on the screen the computer shut down again.
Armageddon in my head. All the preparation for this moment had gone up in smoke. Inwardly I was between fuming and crying but then I took a decision.I decided to start no matter what, knowing that I am strong, knowing that I am good enough to get my points across without any technical equipment. In that moment I stood tall and spoke from the depth of my soul aware that the audience deserved to see me at my BEST. And they did.
Would this have happened 10 years ago I would have been too upset to concentrate on the need of my audience. Why? Because I would have beaten myself up for everything that was happening. I would also have been very angry with the technician for not making sure everything worked as needed. I would have found fault.
What would the result have been? At best a mediocre presentation because audience can feel where you stand. If you are inside or in this case beside yourself they will not appreciate you because you do not appreciate them. Being able to consciously take a deep breath and step out of chaos into the feeling of calm confidence has changed my life enormously and it will change yours too.
Today I know who I am and that knowledge gives me a strong confidence and healthy self-esteem. In how many chaotic situations do you make the empowering decision over the disempowering one? The decision to stand tall and give your best overcoming any chaos or challenge because you know who you are? Because you are centered within yourself? Because you have belief in yourself! Because you KNOW for a fact that you are strong enough to overcome anything!
Belief creates facts so start believing in yourself in order to create those facts you have always wanted in your life.
Life let’s you only get as far as your confidence permits. That is a proven fact you can see all around you. Nobody applies for a higher position unless they are confident that they can fill it. Nobody starts their own business unless they are confident in making it a success. Nobody flirts with someone they are attracted to unless they believe they have a chance.
I could give you hundreds of examples but for now let this be enough. Widen your boundaries, overcome your fears and doubts and consciously build your confidence every single day. Dare to do things you have never dared before because that will give you plenty of opportunities to stand tall to show the world (and yourself) who you are.
To your success