How to stop Negativity

“How do I stop my negative thoughts?” is a question that I have been asked many times and that I had asked myself many, many times over the years. The answer is really quite simple. You stop negative thoughts by planting positive thoughts!

We all have unsolved issues in our lives we need to take care of. When we think about them negative, disempowering thoughts, worry, and frustration enters our head. We are focusing on what we don’t want – negative thoughts – and therefore will attract more of them. The problem is that they cannot disappear if you focus on them.

You see you cannot “stop” the negative thought consciously because if you try to do that you would still focus on the negative thought, wouldn’t you? Even when you try to control them or to push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on the problem, on the negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more negativity to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good, positive thoughts!

You deliberately plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your family, your friends, your home, your work, your food, your pets, the sunshine or the rain, the beauty around you, and the wonder of life iself. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things and beings. Every time you say “Thank you” it is a good thought! As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will go away because your focus is now on the good and what you focus on is what you will get.

In the first few weeks of coaching my clients are asked to email me at least 5 things they are grateful for each day and they do it last thing in the evening because I want them to go to sleep with these positive thoughts on their mind. Every single one of us that reads this has plenty to be grateful for so if you want to stop negative thoughts think positive ones and say thanks for all the good in you and around you. Do not give your attention to negative thoughts. Don’t worry about them. If any come shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more positive thoughts.

ACTION: Start the day by saying Thanks and end the day by saying Thanks. Thanks for your home, the bed you sleep in, for the water you use to drink, to shower and to make tee or coffee with, for your food, your clothes, for the sunshine or the rain outside, for your car, your job, your health, your family and friends… I think you get the trend. We all have plenty to be grateful for. If you start doing this on a continuous basis you will automatically push those negative thoughts away and dwell on the positive; on what you appreciate in life and as you do that, more and more of what you appreciate will appear.

The more positive thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good, into abundant and happy. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying “Thank you” at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into your personal paradise; into your ‘perfect’ life!

Live happy!
Barbara Hofmeister
www.trainingvisions.com

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3 Facts that make it hard to stay motivated

3 Factors That Make You Hard to Motivate?

There will always be times in your life when you have to perform tasks that you deem unpleasant for one reason or another – working with a co-worker you don’t like, going to work on a rainy Monday, taking the garbage out, or doing your tax returns…

Doing these things we dislike just siphons whatever motivation you have inside you and makes you feel sad, tired, sorry, even annoyed and often frustrated.  But did you know that there are also things inside you that actually make it difficult to feel excited and enthusiastic?  Get to learn the factors that make it hard to keep you motivated:

Your mindset
Your mindset is a major factor in your motivation. It can severely limit your understanding of the world and all experiences in general.  It is said that the majority of us have around 70% of thought around things we do not want in our lives. Your mindset can be composed of growth-inhibiting beliefs, prejudices, biases and disempowering standards.

If, for example, you believe that nothing good can come of one of your co-workers, you’ll fail to see her or his potential as your focus is on the negative.  If you can’t believe that you can actually write for a famous magazine because you’re a nobody with the wrong background you’ll miss out on an opportunity to expose your talent and reap its rewards.

Your comfort zone
We all have certain limitations in our minds.  These limits are things we decide on, based on our own experiences, personal beliefs, ethics and values.  Within these limits, we feel comfortable in and can pretty much do as we like.

Once we approach the outer edges, we begin to feel discomfort, shyness, embarrassment or annoyance.  We do not wish to go further because we do not like what we don’t know or haven’t experienced.  Because we have a fear of the unknown, we’d rather stay within our comfort zones because we feel safe there.

The problem here is that a narrow comfort zone can be a major factor that makes you hard to motivate.  Each time you are presented with a new idea or experience, you check to see if it fits into your comfort zone.  If it doesn’t, then you simply refuse, no questions asked.  This is unfortunate because many of these ideas and experiences can be good for you.  But you’ll probably never know because you don’t have the motivation to try them.

Your past experience
Did you get burned by the stove?  That’s probably why you hate to cook.  Did your former boss fail to show appreciation for your hard work?  That’s probably one reason why you don’t feel motivated about your job.

Your background –your personal, social and professional experiences – has a lot to do with how you decide things in your life.  They can also be factors that make you hard to motivate.  If these experiences are negative, they tend to make you more hesitant and unsure of yourself because they affect your self-esteem and confidence.

If, for example, you’ve met with rejection or ridicule in your life, you might think: “Why should I try harder. Nothing will come of it anyway. So what?” Two option are likely. Either you will do down that route or you will rebel and feel a strong need to excel and improve yourself.

Unless you consciously make an effort to identify these past experiences and then refuse to let them rule your life, it will always be hard for you to motivate.

Giving your BEST – to Others

The act of giving your very best to help others will give you personal emotional satisfaction. Whatever form of help you extend, be it your time or giving something else of value, you will undoubtedly receive something better in return.

Is there anything better than a simple “thank you” that is said with sincerity? Is there anything better than appreciation that makes you feel significant? Is there anything better than to create  smiles on other people’s faces?

If your financial or physical resources are limited, you can put your talent or creativity to work. Your urge to help those in need should inspire you to find ways in accumulating resources to actualize your intention. You can come up with ideas to generate more money through fund raising programs. You may also give more of your time doing volunteer service.

In the process of giving your all, your cooperation, your full attention, you might feel the satisfaction and fulfilment you were craving for. You may get physically exhausted; but emotionally, you will be charged with a full and happy heart. You will feel revitalized and invigorated. You will become more enthusiastic. All these occur because you love what you’re doing.

When you set your mind to work for a good cause, you are actually tapping and activating power that promotes health in every corner of your physical, psychological, and emotional being. Your emotions will run high in a positive manner. You will feel sentimentally contented with what you are doing. You will feel as though you’re the highest paid executive in the business; not because you’re being paid with money, but because you’re being paid with your own sense of fulfillment.

When you give your best, the best will bounce back to you.