Why is Life Coaching so effective?

I am being asked all the time what makes Life Coaching so successful. My answer is: It’s efficiency.

But why is it so efficient? Because it is action based and forward oriented while most other self development tools look at the past and try to find out why we are who we are today.

Obviously past behavior may be a good predictor of future behavior, but it’s never more than a tendency because we can change that. The past is over and the future is unknown. But our past does not equal our future. It will only affect it to the degree WE ALLOW it. This is what makes us humans so unique.

Evidently the past DOES matter, but only to the extent we let it. It matters because we can (and we should) reflect on it and learn from it. But it does not have to rule the rest of our lives.

You can change tomorrow by what you do today. What you think, what you believe and the actions you take or don’t take will affect your future. But change is not so easy and this is where coaching can help significantly.

A coach sees the coachee from a different, an outside perspective. Because of this detachment s/he can ask the right questions so the coachees are able to find new and better answers for themselves. Coaching is not so much about giving advice. It is more about helping the client find their own solutions before building an action plan together. Coachees are then supported while executing this plan.

You may not be able to control ALL the events in your life, but you can drastically increase your odds of success by using a coach whenever you are on a crossroad of your life.

Abundant Blessings
Barbara
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Do it for yourself!

“Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something,
perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of
anyone stumbling on something sitting down.”- Charles F. Kettering

Do it for yourself!

Accountability is probably the No. 1 reason why some people make things happen while others only talk about them. If you are one of the go getters, you probably don’t need this advice. However I believe we all have strength and weaknesses and it is good when we become more aware of both. So stay with me as this cannot hurt you but it might make you even stronger and more committed to your success.

I remember when my first coach told me to write him an email every single night I did not take it serious. I said ok and forgot it. He had said it very politely and I did not think it was a requirement.
I soon found out I was wrong and it taught me a big lesson.

He reminded me of my commitment when we next spoke and I thought to myself “Oh why bother. I know what I am doing.” but he did not take that lightly and I will be forever grateful to him for doing that.

On our third appointment he asked me if I think coaching works and of course I said yes. Why else would I pay him to coach me, right? “So why don’t you do your accountability every night?” he asked.
“Oh, I am doing everything I said I would. I just don’t send it to you.” was my fast and not completely truthful answer. “Even if you don’t feel it is necessary, it would help the process a lot.” was his request. And he went on to tell me the story of another client.

To cut the story short, I started to do as asked and do it until today. It has become a habit that I would not miss for the world and tomorrow I will tell you why.

Until then, be successful!
Barbara
www.yoursuccesscycle.com
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Since I can’t live it now…

This post is by M. A. Tohami, Bestselling author of The Pharaohs’ Code

In my coaching partice I notice the following common myth:

“Since I can’t live it now, I won’t think about it now”

Usually the participants are reluctant and tend to resist thinking about their passion and purpose in life, because they believe it is not the right time.

They believe that thinking about their purpose is useless, as long as they have loads of responsibilities and can’t quit what they are doing to pursue their dreams. (Can you relate?!)

However, they always express their willingness to put this task on their future to-do list … when the right time comes.

And guess what…the right time never comes!

The good news is: when you find your passion and purpose, you don’t need (and I don’t recommend) to instantly quit and replace your old life with a new one.

Passionate living is a long joyful journey, not a quick painful transition. And you need to honor the transformation phases and embrace each step of it.

When I explain to the participants the different stages of passionate living and how they can effectively embrace and navigate through each stage, they start to experience an AHA moment. Because, for the first time in their lives they feel that they can feed the hunger of their hearts and souls.

I’ve said it several times -and it is worth repeating again and again- that when you find your passion and purpose in life, you immediately enter a new LONG phase of practice, where you nurture your passion EVERYDAY until it grows, expands and takes on a life of its own.

Don’t let the myth of “since I can’t live it now, I won’t think about it now” stop you from listening to your heart’s desires.

Embrace your passion and enjoy its wonders all the way.

To Your Passionate Life,

M. A. Tohami

Bestselling author of The Pharaohs’ Code

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Accountability – your Path to Success

Accountability is the No. 1 reason why some people make  things happen while others only talk about them. If you are one of  the go getters, you probably already know this. However I believe we all have strength and weaknesses and it is good when we become more aware of either. So stay with me as this cannot hurt you but it might make you even stronger and more committed to your success.
I remember when my first coach told me to write him an email every single night I did not take it serious. I said ok and forgot it. He had said it very politely and I did not think it was a requirement. I soon found out I was wrong and it taught me a big lesson.

He reminded me of my commitment when we next spoke and I thought to myself “Oh why bother. I know what I am doing.” but he did not take that lightly and I will be forever grateful to him for doing that.

On our third appointment he asked me if I think coaching works and of course I said yes. Why else would I pay him to coach me, right?

“So why don’t you do your accountability every night?” he asked.
“Oh, I am doing everything I said I would. I just don’t send it to you.” was my fast and not completely truthful answer.
“Even if you don’t feel it is necessary, it would help the process a lot.” was his request. And he went on to tell me the story of another client and how accountability had helped.

To cut the story short, I started to do as asked and do it until today. It has become a habit that I would not miss for the world and tomorrow I will tell you why.

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What are you worth?

Today I want to share with you a post I read on Lisa Sasevich’s blog. I think Lisa hit the nail on the head with it as most coaches I meet – and that included me for a very long time – do not dare to charge anywhere near enough for them to live a decent lifestyle from their coaching efforts. Very few make a good living and only a handfull make a fortune.

What is the difference? The difference is their mindset about the value of their work.

Let me give you an example:

What is the value of the coaching session I gave to a fellow coach who had just been left by her future husband? She was so devastated and not able to take care of her children and her life, let alone her clients. For 45 Minutes she kept telling me her version of what happened and how she hopes to fix it. No matter what I said, nothing got through to her until I told her that I will end the session so she can continue to wallow in her sorrow for a little while longer.  That got her attention and I was able to take her through some processes that totally changed her perception of the situation.

From that one coaching session her life turned around. She started a social life, became pro-active with here children as well as in her business and within days told me that I had done wonders. Obviously she had done the wonders herself but that one session got her on the path she could not see by herself.

Another example:

In a business seminar I attended in London I was paired up with a young man who owes a garage for high end luxury cars. We had to do write our elevator pitch and when he delivered his I was surprised there was nothing about him in the pitch at all so I gave him some coaching. It only took a few minutes but as he changed his approach I could see the sparkle turn on in his eyes and the pride return to his shoulders. I met him again a few months later in another event and he told me that those few minutes really changed his life. Because he sees himself in a different light now, he started doing things differently and is well on his way to financial freedom.

What are those results worth?

Obviously you do not always get the break through in 5 minutes or in one single session but you do get it as long as you have a good coach and you are open and willing to work with them.

As my preliminary turned out longer than intented I will post Lisa’s post tomorrow so we will continue on this topic. If you feel stuck, unhappy, unsatisfied… do consider getting yourself a coach and remember, you always get out of it what you put into it – be it money, time, attention and intention. Do not haggle with yourself or your coach. Be open.  The advice you get can be… priceless.

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Are you grateful?

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.” – Henry David Thoreau

I often wonder when I hear the moaning and groaning of some people. Unless you give the conversation another direction it seems all they want to do is complain what is going wrong in their life, always putting the blame on others.

Sometimes we have to let issues that are eating us up out but it cannot be the main objective of a meeting with a friend and even less the objective of a coaching session. That is why I want to talk about gratitude because every one of us has so much to be grateful for.

For example:

– You have at least a decent education; otherwise you would not be able to use a computer to find this blog.
– You have a computer or the money to go to an Internet Cafe.
– Unless of course you read this at work or in school which means you can be grateful to have a job and/or to get an education.
– You are most likely to have a roof over your head and some food to put into your tummy.
– You probably have friends who love and respect you for what and who you are.
… the list can go on.

I have a very long list of things I am grateful for and whenever my life doesn’t seem to play the way I want it to or if I feel a little down, I go through my list and my mood changes instantly.

At night before I go to sleep I say thanks for all the good things that happened on that day.

This morning I woke up to the most glorious sunrise. Can you imagine that I am grateful for that? You bet I am. It was a lovely gift at the beginning of the day.

There are so many, small and big, things we take for granted until we don’t have them anymore. Just think of the way we treat our health most of the time – junk food, sodas, excessive sugar and so on.

Take a short time out and look at the people and things you can be grateful for in your life. Write your personal list and have it with you or close by. It will motivate and inspire you whenever you need some uplift.

Have a happy day

Barbara

http://www.yoursuccesscycle.com

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