Look for the message

Last night I watched the film “Troy” on TV. I had seen it once before on DVD and the one scene that had stuck out for me was the scene where Brad Pitt sprang at the giant he was supposed to fight and slit his throat without a moment of hesitation. It had been the only way to win.

On the TV version they had cut this scene out. For me it changed the whole film. Why? Because I always try to learn something and the lesson I got from Achilles the first time I saw the film was

When you have made a decision to do something do it whole heartedly and without hesitation!

Of course I don’t mean to slit anyone’s throat, on the contrary, but have you ever noticed that the truly great movies – the ones that become classics and usually are nominated for Academy Awards – have one thing in common?

Do you know what that one thing is?

They have unforgettable moments with a strong message in them.

Seems obvious, yet these moments can be quite subtle – so subtle that we may overlook them, both in the movies and, more importantly … in our lives.

What makes these moments so extraordinary is that they touch the core of who we are. When we are attentive they can provide the shift we need in the right direction. They are wings for our spirits, for our longing to dare and move forward – out of our comfort zone and into that new space we might fear but at the same time want so much.

Look into the moments that stop you, become aware of why something failed and learn your lesson from it so that next time you will make a better decision and “go for gold” whole heartedly and without hesitation.

Life is great – if only we let it be!
Barbara
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Fears

Today we are talking about common fears and doubts.

The fact is we all have fears. It’s a necessary emotion without which we
would not be truly alive. Think about it – and you’ll realize that there have
probably been times when fear has steered you away from making bad
decisions. In its truest sense, fear is meant to protect us from danger and
help us survive. The real danger lies in allowing that protection to rule our
life. We all want to be safe and secure, but what is security? We have discussed
this before when we talked about our comfort zone.

For each of us it has a different meaning. If you are a Formula 1 driver,
speeding will be unlike what the rest of us experience driving a regular car.
The F1 driver has stretched his speed (fear) limits to double or even triple
our normal capacity and he has done so out of his own choosing. He had
to open his boundaries to make this possible and he did.

To change, to become better, stronger and happier human beings we must
step outside of our comfort zone in order to live the life we want to live.
Otherwise it is highly likely that we will live one created from fear, from
doubt and from holding back.

All too often we give in, sometimes without even realizing it. We give our
fears much too much power. Sometimes, because of our culture and tendency
to compare ourselves to others, we see our fears as signs of weakness
and inferiority, which further strengthens their power over us, and we
fall into the trap of continual self-doubt.

People who assert their opinions on you, holding you back with
their negativity and judgments are the dream steelers keeping you
from living your life vision – from being the real you.

 

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3 Facts that make it hard to stay motivated

3 Factors That Make You Hard to Motivate?

There will always be times in your life when you have to perform tasks that you deem unpleasant for one reason or another – working with a co-worker you don’t like, going to work on a rainy Monday, taking the garbage out, or doing your tax returns…

Doing these things we dislike just siphons whatever motivation you have inside you and makes you feel sad, tired, sorry, even annoyed and often frustrated.  But did you know that there are also things inside you that actually make it difficult to feel excited and enthusiastic?  Get to learn the factors that make it hard to keep you motivated:

Your mindset
Your mindset is a major factor in your motivation. It can severely limit your understanding of the world and all experiences in general.  It is said that the majority of us have around 70% of thought around things we do not want in our lives. Your mindset can be composed of growth-inhibiting beliefs, prejudices, biases and disempowering standards.

If, for example, you believe that nothing good can come of one of your co-workers, you’ll fail to see her or his potential as your focus is on the negative.  If you can’t believe that you can actually write for a famous magazine because you’re a nobody with the wrong background you’ll miss out on an opportunity to expose your talent and reap its rewards.

Your comfort zone
We all have certain limitations in our minds.  These limits are things we decide on, based on our own experiences, personal beliefs, ethics and values.  Within these limits, we feel comfortable in and can pretty much do as we like.

Once we approach the outer edges, we begin to feel discomfort, shyness, embarrassment or annoyance.  We do not wish to go further because we do not like what we don’t know or haven’t experienced.  Because we have a fear of the unknown, we’d rather stay within our comfort zones because we feel safe there.

The problem here is that a narrow comfort zone can be a major factor that makes you hard to motivate.  Each time you are presented with a new idea or experience, you check to see if it fits into your comfort zone.  If it doesn’t, then you simply refuse, no questions asked.  This is unfortunate because many of these ideas and experiences can be good for you.  But you’ll probably never know because you don’t have the motivation to try them.

Your past experience
Did you get burned by the stove?  That’s probably why you hate to cook.  Did your former boss fail to show appreciation for your hard work?  That’s probably one reason why you don’t feel motivated about your job.

Your background –your personal, social and professional experiences – has a lot to do with how you decide things in your life.  They can also be factors that make you hard to motivate.  If these experiences are negative, they tend to make you more hesitant and unsure of yourself because they affect your self-esteem and confidence.

If, for example, you’ve met with rejection or ridicule in your life, you might think: “Why should I try harder. Nothing will come of it anyway. So what?” Two option are likely. Either you will do down that route or you will rebel and feel a strong need to excel and improve yourself.

Unless you consciously make an effort to identify these past experiences and then refuse to let them rule your life, it will always be hard for you to motivate.

Move out of your Comfort Zone

It takes some doing to make us change, to make us move out of what we know – our so called comfort zone.

Comfort zone has nothing to do being in comfort. However it has everything to do what we are used to, just think of how many couples live in bad even abusive relationships for years without doing anything about it. Moving out of our so called “comfort zone” is so difficult because we lived into it slowly and eventually got so used to it that we consider it normal and believe it has to be like that and there is nothing much we can do about it.

But I assure you we can do something! We have a choice!

We can change at any time we make that decision.

It is always in our hands.

To make change we are usually motivated by pain or by joy. Normally pain is more powerful. I call these moments our wake-up calls. Often they appear around important birthdays or special anniversaries, or in sad, difficult moments like a divorce, a bankruptcy, a serious illness or other dark moments in life.

It is in those moments that we are forced to take a closer look at our life. It is in those moments that we are forced to make choices – different choices.

We need to choose whether we want to continue as is or move on and do things different – hopefully with better results.

Tomorrow we will talk about how you can do that…

“If you don’t change the road you’re traveling on,

you’ll probably end up where you’re going.” – Confucius

What is holding YOU back?

In a survey people were asked what their number one challenge in life was and over 60 % said they think they are holding themselves back. What is meant by that? We seem to use this phrase frequently without thinking of its implication.

How can you hold yourself back? Just picture it. It is impossible, isn’t it?

But you are right, we still do it. It is one of the most common acts of self sabotage. We want to go somewhere. For instance we might want to become more successful in our job or business or open up more towards our spouse or friends – but we are holding back. WHY do you think that is?

In most cases it happens out of fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection and maybe even fear of success.

What do we gain from it? We gain that we can stay in our comfort zone, that we do not have to cross our home made barriers and try something of which we don’t know the outcome.

But if we do the same things over and over again, how can we ever expect to get different results? It’s a vicious circle, isn’t it?

We cannot find light by sitting in the darkness. We cannot move forward by hanging on wht used to be.  – Dr. Wayne Dyer

We must let go of some of those believes and old, non supportive habits in order to make space for something better and new. Castaneda calls it giving up your history.

If you don’t have a story, you don’t have to live up to it. – Carlos Castaneda

Dr. Wayne Dyer compares it to the wake of a boat. It looks like it has a lot of energy but ask yourself: Is the wake driving the boat and moving it forward?

Unfortunately we seem to be living this illusion because too many people think what is behind us is holding us back but that is not true as it is in the past, it’s gone, done with! Finito!!!

Only the energy we develop in the present moment can drive us forward. If you let what was in the past stop you to move towards what you truly want in life, you are falling for an illusion. Like the wake from the speed boat, it is nothing more than a trail that is left behind.

Look at small children. They never hold themselves back. As soon as they have an idea, they put it into immediate action and afterwards they evaluate the result. If they hurt themselves they will be more careful in the future. But as adults we seem to evaluate more things that might happen or could happen than the things that actually do happen. Weird, isn’t it?

Get rid of your past story! Get rid of what you used to be if that does not serve you or you are ready to move to another level. Instead use your  energy to become what you want to be. Begin to have a passionate love affair with what it is you really want. See it in front of your inner eye as if it were already reality.

Fall in love with the idea so much that you can’t stop to think about it; that it is the first though in the morning and the last at night. See the desired end result you aspire to in your day dreams. Visualize it to the extend that you can see it, taste it, hear it, smell it, and most of all feel it in your bones. When that happens, you will start to see the HOW. Now it is just a matter of filling in the blanks.

Once you can see and feel the outcome, you just have to start taking the steps that are necessary to get there – one by one. As soon as you have made a decision and manifest that into clear goals (going backwards from the end result you are aiming to achieve), providence will send you the right tools and the right people and opportunities to actually turn your vision into reality. Isn’t that what you want?

So why are you holding back?

You can be anything you want to be!

You can be anything you want to be! And exactly here is our challenge. To dare something new we must move out of our comfort zone and believe me, that is not easy. We feel comfortable in what we know, we feel safe and secure even if we are in a miserable situation because the devil we know… I am sure you know the proverb. But if we continue to do…

Einstein put this very nicely:
“The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.”

To help you move out of your comfort zone visualize what it would be like when you have reached your big dream. Open your boundaries and dream in 3D. Visualize in every little detail, with all 5 senses what life could be like when you are actually there. Close your eyes and daydream and only when you can “see” yourself in your perfect day and have a wide grin on your face and a nice, warm feeling inside, open your eyes and write it all down. Every little bit of it. Where you are, what you feel, who is around you, what you do, is it warm or cold, are you in a city or in the country, is it a special day of celebration…

Make it a very vivid Vision of your perfect day. Imagination is the root of everything we do and by far the most powerful tool to succeed. Unless you can imagine yourself being happier, richer, thinner, fitter, or whatever it is you want to achieve, the chances of you ever getting there are slim.

Your brain needs to ‘see’ the results of your actions before it will allow you to apply your time and effort on striving for them. But unfortunately, although we are all blessed with imaginative powers as children, those powers very often fade as we enter adulthood. Remember the 95 % confidence we have as children and only 5 % as adolescents.

Regaining your ability to imagine, to picture something in your mind so complete that all your senses can experience it, IS possible. It just takes a little bit of practice. The more detailed your written “vision” is the more it will draw you towards actually getting there. Mine gets longer and longer and I feel great when I read it – which you should do frequently.

Jim Rohn says: “If the why is strong enough, the how becomes easy.” It is up to you to create your WHY. Get yourself into the feeling. This is the strongest technique to create belief in yourself!!! My clients say it is like giving birth and it really is incredibly motivating.

Honestly look into the amount of time you give to your dreams every day? For most of us it is NONE so how can we expect to ever make them come true?

It is only when your vision is clear that you should ask yourself: What do I have to do to get there? Always start with the end result in mind! That is what most of us do wrong. We start walking before we know exactly where we want to go to. In consequence it is no surprise that we stray off and get discouraged.

Work with the secrets of those who have done the “impossible”. Change your programming from “What if I fail?” to “What if I succeed? Then what?” Would that scare you? It shouldn’t! You are the Best in whatever field you are passionately involved in. But first you must know exactly what you want. Your vision has to be crystal clear to you.

Sorry, if I get carried away but I really want you to get this.

Dr. Schuler, Edison , Mandela, Trump, Robbins and a lot of other extremely successful people all have these 3 things in common.

The first key is that they know exactly what they want and start with the end in mind.
The second key is BELIEF. People who do the impossible believe they can do it and eventually they do!
And the third: They act in spite of their fears; in spite of their doubts and in spite of what their family and friends might tell them.

Always remember: These are your dreams not theirs. This is your life not theirs!

Dare to go further, dare to create new experiences, implant greater ideas. Act in spite of your fears and doubts – again and again. Move on even if you feel uncomfortable. It is in those moments that you grow.

I wish you to be ALL YOU CAN BE and that is anything you want to be!

To your success!

Barbara Hofmeister

www.yoursuccesscycle.com

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Take your Self Esteem Inventory

Self Confidence… that comfortable freedom to simply be yourself – absolutely certain that is more than good enough! A strong, healthy confidence is a warm reassuring feeling that in this life you can achieve pretty much all you want! The feeling that you can do whatever necessary to achieve your personal dreams!

Unfortunately most of us don’t have this strong belief in ourselves and our abilities. We have been mystified, one time or another and some very often, with conflicting beliefs. Maybe, when you were a child, some ‘authority’ figure ridiculed, embarrassed or scolded you. And you took that criticism too much to heart, as children tend to do because of their admiration of the adults around them they love.

You might even have heard your parents, grandparents or teachers say things like:
“You’re not good enough” or “You’re not smart enough” – maybe even, “You’ll never be able to…” or “You’ll never amount to anything.” These types of remarks coming from people we look up to can be very destructive for our self esteem.

It is not important how unreliable the source might have been or how misconceived the disparaging remarks were, they may still be making you feel a lack of confidence and low self-esteem today.

Furthermore, discouraging words spoken many years ago might lead you to find fault with many things you do and be overly critical with yourself.

Enough is enough!!!

Get yourself a journal and start each day by writing your strength, achievements and blessings down. You will be surprised how much you can come up with even though it might feel a little awkward at first. Concentrate purely on what works and leave the things that went wrong – now or in the past – behind.

The past is gone and cannot be changed. The future will come – whether we keep our disempowering beliefs or not. Today – NOW is the only time we can make a change and we can do that by starting to build our self esteem inventory!

Start NOW by writing at least 5 strength and achievements in your life down and then go out and get a journal so you can fill it in each day with a minimum of 3 of your personal blessings!

Give yourself the time. YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Barbara Hofmeister

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