Attitude of Gratitude

In the USA Thanksgiving is the most important family holiday. It is also a day on which many celebrities share food with those less fortunate than they are and I know from my own experience that this is a very rewarding experience.

Giving thanks to all the good that already is in your life is probably the easiest ways to find happiness. One of the first things I ask of my coaching clients is that they keep a gratitude journal. Each day they have to write at least 3 things they are grateful for. The more the better.

Why do I ask them to do that? Because I want them to start feeling good about themselves and their lives. I want them to appreciate what they already have so the gap between that and their goals seems smaller.

For most people it seems easier to find things to complain about than to find things to give thanks for. But it is exactly that which keeps them from happiness and fulfillment. What we concentrate on is what we get. When we complain and concentrate on what doesn’t work, we enforce exactly that. That is why when people have financial challenges and don’t stop to concentrate on their lack of money, things get worse and worse. Whatever they try, they don’t seem to get out of that situation and even when they make money they loose it again.

What you focus on expands. When you focus on lack, lack is what you get. When you focus on abundance, abundance will come into your life. Start giving even if you have little and give without expecting anything back. If you give and expect gratitude it will not work.

Our subconscious does everything to fulfill our wishes but it cannot understand a negation. If you say “I don’t want to smoke” it understands “I want to smoke” and helps you with that. If you think “I don’t want to have financial problems” etc. it understands only the basic which are financial problems. Therefore it is omni-important to focus only on what you want and never on what you don’t want.

As I said in the beginning giving thanks, feeling grateful is the easiest way to feeling happy. Look at what you already have in your life and say thanks for that – each and every day. Be grateful when the sun shines and when rain gives water to the land so our food can grow. Give thanks for having a roof over your head, for the food you eat, for having family and friends in your life, and for your health and whatever wealth you have accumulated so far. Give thanks for being alive and kicking. For the flower you see grow out of the cracks of the asphalt, for a beautiful sunset, or the perfect snowflake that lands on your nose.

There are thousands of moments and things in every day of our lives that we can and should be grateful for. Start writing them down in your gratitude journal every night before you go to sleep and again in the morning before you start your day. Do that for 21 days and your life will change. That is a promise.

Happy Changes!

Barbara

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How to stop Negativity

“How do I stop my negative thoughts?” is a question that I have been asked many times and that I had asked myself many, many times over the years. The answer is really quite simple. You stop negative thoughts by planting positive thoughts!

We all have unsolved issues in our lives we need to take care of. When we think about them negative, disempowering thoughts, worry, and frustration enters our head. We are focusing on what we don’t want – negative thoughts – and therefore will attract more of them. The problem is that they cannot disappear if you focus on them.

You see you cannot “stop” the negative thought consciously because if you try to do that you would still focus on the negative thought, wouldn’t you? Even when you try to control them or to push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on the problem, on the negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more negativity to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good, positive thoughts!

You deliberately plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your family, your friends, your home, your work, your food, your pets, the sunshine or the rain, the beauty around you, and the wonder of life iself. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things and beings. Every time you say “Thank you” it is a good thought! As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will go away because your focus is now on the good and what you focus on is what you will get.

In the first few weeks of coaching my clients are asked to email me at least 5 things they are grateful for each day and they do it last thing in the evening because I want them to go to sleep with these positive thoughts on their mind. Every single one of us that reads this has plenty to be grateful for so if you want to stop negative thoughts think positive ones and say thanks for all the good in you and around you. Do not give your attention to negative thoughts. Don’t worry about them. If any come shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more positive thoughts.

ACTION: Start the day by saying Thanks and end the day by saying Thanks. Thanks for your home, the bed you sleep in, for the water you use to drink, to shower and to make tee or coffee with, for your food, your clothes, for the sunshine or the rain outside, for your car, your job, your health, your family and friends… I think you get the trend. We all have plenty to be grateful for. If you start doing this on a continuous basis you will automatically push those negative thoughts away and dwell on the positive; on what you appreciate in life and as you do that, more and more of what you appreciate will appear.

The more positive thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good, into abundant and happy. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying “Thank you” at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into your personal paradise; into your ‘perfect’ life!

Live happy!
Barbara Hofmeister
www.trainingvisions.com

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Are you grateful?

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.” – Henry David Thoreau

I often wonder when I hear the moaning and groaning of some people. Unless you give the conversation another direction it seems all they want to do is complain what is going wrong in their life, always putting the blame on others.

Sometimes we have to let issues that are eating us up out but it cannot be the main objective of a meeting with a friend and even less the objective of a coaching session. That is why I want to talk about gratitude because every one of us has so much to be grateful for.

For example:

– You have at least a decent education; otherwise you would not be able to use a computer to find this blog.
– You have a computer or the money to go to an Internet Cafe.
– Unless of course you read this at work or in school which means you can be grateful to have a job and/or to get an education.
– You are most likely to have a roof over your head and some food to put into your tummy.
– You probably have friends who love and respect you for what and who you are.
… the list can go on.

I have a very long list of things I am grateful for and whenever my life doesn’t seem to play the way I want it to or if I feel a little down, I go through my list and my mood changes instantly.

At night before I go to sleep I say thanks for all the good things that happened on that day.

This morning I woke up to the most glorious sunrise. Can you imagine that I am grateful for that? You bet I am. It was a lovely gift at the beginning of the day.

There are so many, small and big, things we take for granted until we don’t have them anymore. Just think of the way we treat our health most of the time – junk food, sodas, excessive sugar and so on.

Take a short time out and look at the people and things you can be grateful for in your life. Write your personal list and have it with you or close by. It will motivate and inspire you whenever you need some uplift.

Have a happy day

Barbara

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