Happy New Year – NY Resolutions are promises

The year 2017 has just started and most of us made some New Year Resolutions last night. My friend KieranRevell send me a great message which I want to share with you as I am in total agreement with what he says. Here it goes:


New Year resolutions are made and broken with monotonous regularity. Though treated lightly, they are in fact promises we make to ourselves about our futures – short medium and long term. When we dismiss them without a second thought and without really trying, we signal our inability to live up to our own expectations and have already begun the spiral of disappointment.

Unfortunately, most resolutions are made flippantly. We look back briefly at the year behind us, order another drink and swear to the four winds we’ll do better next year. So continues the whim. We put no stock in their importance to our lives.

What if you really could have an awesome future? If you knew in your heart you could affect the changes necessary to embrace the life you deserve and only ever dreamed of? Perhaps you know deep down you can do better but up until this point in your life, have lacked the resolve.

Many people will laugh and dismiss your resolutions as useless. ‘Don’t waste your time’? ‘You don’t have the courage to stick to any plan’? ‘Life is pretty good as it is: Why change it’? The list of excuses is endless and unfortunately, we so often take the path of least resistance and surrender even before we begin.

More than 70% of NY resolutions are not acted upon at all: More than 55% fail in the first three months and that increases to almost 80% over 6 months and so on. That doesn’t leave much. At the end you simply have another failed batch of promises. You life is right back where you were: The merry-go-round continues for another 12 months as nothing changes.

Why not make this year different and instead of wishing and hoping, then reverting to old habits, do something concrete? It is possible to lead an extraordinary life. You need only believe in yourself and your plan. Fill your every action with determination, drive, passion and gratitude. Now it’s time to take action.
If you fail to do anything, it’s not the end of your world but life will stagnate for another year. Is that what you want or do you really want to move from where you are, to a point of clarity and absolute prosperity? I know which one I choose!

The following steps will help you build an awesome life, based on the promises you make to yourself:
1. Write your ten most desired goals (short, medium & long term) in your journal;
2. Make the goals realistic & attainable;
3. Write the action needed to take to achieve them;
4. Write mantras/uplifting quotes next to every goal and recite it every day;
5. Create a time frame for each goal;
6. Create a contract with yourself & have it witnessed by a friend or family member;
7. Reward yourself when you achieve each goal, no matter how small;
8. Impose small harmless penalties if you fail to achieve them;
9. Don’t share your resolutions with anyone (they might not support you);
10. Share your results with family members and friends;
11. As you achieve them, cross them out and write in capital letters – ACHIEVED! – all in red pen.
12. Learn to smile and be grateful for even the smallest blessing in your life;
13. Once you do this successfully, you can make resolutions at any time of the year and achieve them.

It’s important you believe beyond question you’re the most important person in the world and your life truly matters: You’ll begin to evolve into the person you want to become. Always carry humility, respect, wisdom, trust, patience, understanding, love, faith, truth, generosity, gratitude and tolerance in your pocket and quietly hold them to your heart when you’re under pressure or unsure of the road you’re travelling.

I wish each and every one of you a safe, happy and incredibly prosperous 2012. With self-belief, determination and a clear plan of action, all things are achievable.

Stop procrastinating and start living. Imagine the possibilities …

With warmth and respect,


Attitude of Gratitude

In the USA Thanksgiving is the most important family holiday. It is also a day on which many celebrities share food with those less fortunate than they are and I know from my own experience that this is a very rewarding experience.

Giving thanks to all the good that already is in your life is probably the easiest ways to find happiness. One of the first things I ask of my coaching clients is that they keep a gratitude journal. Each day they have to write at least 3 things they are grateful for. The more the better.

Why do I ask them to do that? Because I want them to start feeling good about themselves and their lives. I want them to appreciate what they already have so the gap between that and their goals seems smaller.

For most people it seems easier to find things to complain about than to find things to give thanks for. But it is exactly that which keeps them from happiness and fulfillment. What we concentrate on is what we get. When we complain and concentrate on what doesn’t work, we enforce exactly that. That is why when people have financial challenges and don’t stop to concentrate on their lack of money, things get worse and worse. Whatever they try, they don’t seem to get out of that situation and even when they make money they loose it again.

What you focus on expands. When you focus on lack, lack is what you get. When you focus on abundance, abundance will come into your life. Start giving even if you have little and give without expecting anything back. If you give and expect gratitude it will not work.

Our subconscious does everything to fulfill our wishes but it cannot understand a negation. If you say “I don’t want to smoke” it understands “I want to smoke” and helps you with that. If you think “I don’t want to have financial problems” etc. it understands only the basic which are financial problems. Therefore it is omni-important to focus only on what you want and never on what you don’t want.

As I said in the beginning giving thanks, feeling grateful is the easiest way to feeling happy. Look at what you already have in your life and say thanks for that – each and every day. Be grateful when the sun shines and when rain gives water to the land so our food can grow. Give thanks for having a roof over your head, for the food you eat, for having family and friends in your life, and for your health and whatever wealth you have accumulated so far. Give thanks for being alive and kicking. For the flower you see grow out of the cracks of the asphalt, for a beautiful sunset, or the perfect snowflake that lands on your nose.

There are thousands of moments and things in every day of our lives that we can and should be grateful for. Start writing them down in your gratitude journal every night before you go to sleep and again in the morning before you start your day. Do that for 21 days and your life will change. That is a promise.

Happy Changes!



Breaking a bad Habit

What a glorious day!

At this time of year I usually wake up with the sunrise. Today it was absolutely stunning and I did my short exercise session on the terrace watching the sun rise over the sea and the colors of the clouds change. What more can one ask from life?

Not having to do exercise some might say and I would lie if I say that I never feel like missing a day. You see, it is only about 6 weeks since I exercise again on a regular basis. Before I did Yoga with my neighbor but that was very irregular, anything between 1 and 3 times a week. Better than nothing but nowhere near enough.

Before I moved to Spain in 2000 and got caught up working through the Internet (of course that was my own decision) I went to a fitness studio 3-5 times a week and was in really good shape. Since then I have gone through menopause and my body has changed and needs to move more than ever but it costs me more than ever to actually make myself do it. Why?

Because I broke what had been a very good habit and exchanged it for something new – my computer! Unfortunately those new habits were not very good for me. Then why did you do it, you might ask. Well, most changes, whether positive or as in my case, negative don’t happen overnight. Gradually I found more and more reasons why I couldn’t go the studio and within a few weeks I went from 5 to 3 times, to 2 times, to 1 time, to only occasionally and then I stopped altogether as I moved country. And of course being new there I had even more reasons not to train.

The less you do sports (or whatever it is you are supposed to do) the more difficult it seems. Just ask someone who is obese and loves fast food. The disempowering habit becomes so much part of them that they cannot imagine it any other way anymore. And if you ever become consciously aware what you are doing to yourself, you will easily find a good excuse why right now it really is absolutely impossible to change. And most probably you will add that it is not a problem because you can stop whatever you are doing and take up your good habit again anytime. And you can but it is not as easy as one might hope.

Moving into disempowering habits seems easier and is exactly how you get into the habit of smoking, drinking too much alcohol or taking drugs. You tell yourself: “I can stop it anytime”. In most cases “any time” never comes.

Until I seriously got into Simpleology I would find all kind of excuses as a way out of regular exercise. Each Mondy when I planned my week I tried to include some sports but somehow it always got thrown out for more “important” things. Doing my daily target praxis from this multi-media course by Mark Joyner finally got me more disciplined again and I can now see myself moving much faster towards my goals and dreams. And the best is the 101 course is FREE.

Like my “To be” system it is an ongoing program that nudges you gently in the right direction in tiny steps and before you know it you have broken out of a bad habit back into a good one. Try it out. You will need a little patience before you see real results but if you stick with it the results will absolutely astound you. It got me from rarely exercising to daily exercise and from occasional meditation to daily meditation, from weekly goal setting to daily targets etc. And seeing the small positive differences each and every day is what will drive you on. Remember, change 1 % a day means having changed 365 % in one year!

Have fun

How to stop Negativity

“How do I stop my negative thoughts?” is a question that I have been asked many times and that I had asked myself many, many times over the years. The answer is really quite simple. You stop negative thoughts by planting positive thoughts!

We all have unsolved issues in our lives we need to take care of. When we think about them negative, disempowering thoughts, worry, and frustration enters our head. We are focusing on what we don’t want – negative thoughts – and therefore will attract more of them. The problem is that they cannot disappear if you focus on them.

You see you cannot “stop” the negative thought consciously because if you try to do that you would still focus on the negative thought, wouldn’t you? Even when you try to control them or to push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on the problem, on the negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more negativity to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good, positive thoughts!

You deliberately plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your family, your friends, your home, your work, your food, your pets, the sunshine or the rain, the beauty around you, and the wonder of life iself. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things and beings. Every time you say “Thank you” it is a good thought! As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will go away because your focus is now on the good and what you focus on is what you will get.

In the first few weeks of coaching my clients are asked to email me at least 5 things they are grateful for each day and they do it last thing in the evening because I want them to go to sleep with these positive thoughts on their mind. Every single one of us that reads this has plenty to be grateful for so if you want to stop negative thoughts think positive ones and say thanks for all the good in you and around you. Do not give your attention to negative thoughts. Don’t worry about them. If any come shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more positive thoughts.

ACTION: Start the day by saying Thanks and end the day by saying Thanks. Thanks for your home, the bed you sleep in, for the water you use to drink, to shower and to make tee or coffee with, for your food, your clothes, for the sunshine or the rain outside, for your car, your job, your health, your family and friends… I think you get the trend. We all have plenty to be grateful for. If you start doing this on a continuous basis you will automatically push those negative thoughts away and dwell on the positive; on what you appreciate in life and as you do that, more and more of what you appreciate will appear.

The more positive thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good, into abundant and happy. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying “Thank you” at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into your personal paradise; into your ‘perfect’ life!

Live happy!
Barbara Hofmeister

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How Gratitude creates Happiness

Yesterday I talked about the power of accountability and I can only recommend everyone with dreams and goals to take that advice. Today we want to talk about another amazing tool and that is GRATITUDE.

It was the 4th lesson I learned from my first coach. What he had asked me to do was send him an email every night with at least 3 things I was most grateful for in the past day.

You have no idea what that does to you. It makes you actively look for things to appreciate even when you have a tough day. Taking this asignment serious brought a lot of happiness into my life and helped improve the lives of hundreds of my clients because once I understood the power of it I started using it in my coaching too. Try it out. You will be amazed at the results. At first you will have to use willpower to keep the commitment for writing it down every day but after a few weeks it will be totally natural and I can assure you, YOU WILL LOVE IT!

Why? Because you start to relize all the good things that are already in your life. You take your focus away from your troubles and focus on the good which eventually will bring you more of the good. Remember, what you focus on expands.

I give thanks every night before going to sleep and very often again in the morning before getting up. That is a good way of doing it once it has become a habit. Until then the best way to do it is through keeping a gratitude journal. I still keep mine because it makes me feel good about myself and my life.

You will be amazed at the beauty and wonders you start to see all around you once you get into this.

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Learn to love a rainy day

“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass…
it’s about learning to dance in the rain!”
-Vivian Greene

Isn’t it true that we all face adversity in our life? Even if it seems as if we are the only ones with challenges, rest assured that others also have their problems.  That being so how come that some people seem to overcome their adversities with ease while other’s struggle continuously?

It is because it’s not the adversity, it is how we react to the adversity that will determine the joy, happiness, and amount of success we have in our life.

And it’s really easy to become happier and more fulfilled through being grateful for what is. I talked about that before and shall do so again because it really helps overcome the down feeling we tend to have during tough times. Gratitude can help you enjoy any rainy day.

It almost sounds too simple but one word… GRATITUDE, can totally change your attitude and with it, your life, forever.

When we choose to focus on the good there is in our life instead of on what is missing, depression and frustration don’t get space. When we focus on all the incredible good things we have in and around us, we can find heaven on earth and even enjoy a rainy day.

Are you grateful?

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.” – Henry David Thoreau

I often wonder when I hear the moaning and groaning of some people. Unless you give the conversation another direction it seems all they want to do is complain what is going wrong in their life, always putting the blame on others.

Sometimes we have to let issues that are eating us up out but it cannot be the main objective of a meeting with a friend and even less the objective of a coaching session. That is why I want to talk about gratitude because every one of us has so much to be grateful for.

For example:

– You have at least a decent education; otherwise you would not be able to use a computer to find this blog.
– You have a computer or the money to go to an Internet Cafe.
– Unless of course you read this at work or in school which means you can be grateful to have a job and/or to get an education.
– You are most likely to have a roof over your head and some food to put into your tummy.
– You probably have friends who love and respect you for what and who you are.
… the list can go on.

I have a very long list of things I am grateful for and whenever my life doesn’t seem to play the way I want it to or if I feel a little down, I go through my list and my mood changes instantly.

At night before I go to sleep I say thanks for all the good things that happened on that day.

This morning I woke up to the most glorious sunrise. Can you imagine that I am grateful for that? You bet I am. It was a lovely gift at the beginning of the day.

There are so many, small and big, things we take for granted until we don’t have them anymore. Just think of the way we treat our health most of the time – junk food, sodas, excessive sugar and so on.

Take a short time out and look at the people and things you can be grateful for in your life. Write your personal list and have it with you or close by. It will motivate and inspire you whenever you need some uplift.

Have a happy day



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Are we grateful enough?

Are we grateful enough?

I often wonder when I listen to the moaning and growning of people. Unless you give the conversation another direction it seems all they want to do is complain about what is going wrong in their life, most of the time blaming others.

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we have to let everything that is eating us up out but it cannot be the main objective of a conversation and of course even less of a coaching session.

We all have so much to be grateful for:

  1. You have at least a decent education; otherwise you would not be able to use a computer to find this blog.
  2. You have a computer or the money to go to an Internet Cafe.
  3. Unless of course you read this at work or in school which means you can be grateful to have a job and/or to get an education.
  4. You are most likely to have a roof over your head and some food to put into your tummy.
  5. You probably have friends who love and respect you for who and what you are.
  6. …and the list can go on…

I have a long list of things I am grateful for and whenever life doesn’t seem to play the way I want it to or I feel a little down I go through my list and my mood changes instantly. This morning I woke up to the most glorious sunrise. Isn’t that something to be grateful for?

There are so many small beautiful things we take for granted until they are not there anymore. Take a little time out and look at those things or people you can be grateful for in your life and write your personal list. Carry it with you or have it close at hand because it will motivate and inspire you whenever you need uplift.

Abundant Blessings

Barbara Hofmeister


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