How Things Get Better

Moments TO BE

“For things to change, we have to change.

For things to get better, you’ve got to get better.” – Jim Rohn

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Once you take responsibility for what is and what is not in your life, you can learn to turn it around. It is in your hands and – as always – it is your choice!

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Second Step to Success – Your WHY

Friedrich Nietzsche said: “He who has a Why to live for, can bear almost any How.”

Jim Rohn said: “If the WHY is big enough the HOW becomes easy.

Both mean the same thing. We need a strong WHY, a strong drive that will cary us past hurdles and obstacles.

So now that you’ve hopefully become clearer on WHAT you truly want to do with your life; who you want to become I suggest you continue your journal by writing down all the reasons WHY you want what you want.

Only when you are clear on the WHAT and the WHY will you be able to really get there. It is not your will alone that will move you towards your dreams. It is your burning desire and your passion that will keep you moving continuously even when the going is tough at times.

If you need help I recommend you consider getting yourself some coaching or join our Mastermind Focus Group. Both will help you immensely and will make sure you stay on track.

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Reflect on your Life

Yesterday we talked about the moments in our life when we are ready to change – hopefully for the better. Today I want to suggest that you take out some time for reflection.

Ask yourself…

What is my life all about?

Who am I?

What do I want?

What are my dreams?

What is my idea of an ideal life?

Give that a few moments of thought and write your answers down even if they don’t make sense at first. This will be the first of several sessions in which we will work on clarifying your purpose and path in life. This is very fundamental work that everybody that is looking to live a fulfilled and purposeful live needs to do.

You don’t want to end up giving more thought to your next vacation than you do to your life, do you?

“I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they do their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change.” – Jim Rohn

Do you consider escape easier than change?

Changing Bad Habits into Good Ones

I came across another one of Jim Rohn’s powerful quotes. He was the master in saying a lot with a few simple words.

“Bad habits are easy to form and hard to live with and good
habits are hard to form but easy to live with.” ~ Jim Rohn

How often have you wanted to exercise on a more regular basis but somehow never found the time or energy? I plead guilty to that too.

But as we all know time or energy are not “found” in the street or in a “lost and found” office. It is something we need to create, we need to make space for. Bad habits can be anything from getting up too late and rushing into the day without taking the time for a healthy breakfast that is supposed to keep us fueled all day. We all know it but few do it.

Coming home from work it is so much easier to flop on the sofa and turn the TV on to watch some senseless series than to do those exercise we did not make time for in the morning or to read that book we have sitting on our bedside table for months.

But like Jim Rohn points out, in the end these bad habit make our life hard. Living unhealthy eventually gives us an unhealthy body. Not taking care of our finances eventually makes us bancrupt. Not spending quality time with our loved once, often ends in a bad relationship or even a break-up.

So how do we form a new, a better habit?

First of all we make a decision that now is the time to do it. It’s got to come from us and not from the outside. Next we make a written commitment into our journal and declare that

I, ……………………………………., on …………………………….. commit 100% to ……………………………………………………………………………………………………

because it will ………………………………………………………………………………..

The reason why you want to form this new habit is important as that is what will get you over the bumps and hurdles when you don’t feel like it.

Enjoy and be happy doing it!

If you don’t have one start a gratitude journal in which you write things you are grateful for every single day. That takes a minute a day but gives you so much motivation and inspiration to fuel the energy you need to break some bad habits.

Procrastinators beware! Why we fail

“I will do it later” This is probably the favorite line of every procrastinator and I admit to having said or thought this myself more than once. You convince yourself that tomorrow is a better day to start with those exercise you know you need to do, you will start tomorrow to manage your finances, you will write that letter tomorrow or make that urgent phone call TOMORROW.

If procrastination is an issue in your life, make a decision now and set a goal into motion by taking action immediately. The second best time to do it is today. Stop putting things that should be done today off till tomorrow or the day after as that might be too late.

But that is not the only reason. Getting things done – completion of projects, however small – gives you a feeling of satisfaction and achievement which in turn strengthens your belief in yourself. Once you get the hang of it, it soon becomes a positive habit. Jim Rohn used to say: “A positive habit repeated every day spells success. A negative habit repeated every day spells disaster.” And he is 100% right.  Things will not get done by themselves and the only time you can do them is in the now. That is also the only time that we can control – the now.

Another reason for failing is lack of accountability. Did you know that we get up to 8 times more done when we are accountable? We seem to rise up to the occasion and get that little extra out of ourselves. The easiest way to demonstrate that is with physical exercise. If we do them alone, we usually find plenty of reasons (excuses) to do less than we wanted to but when there is someone else who holds us accountable, who supports and encourages us, we will run that extra mile even if when we think we can’t even take another step.

Isn’t it ironical that that last mile is what gets you the best results? As in the gym where the last reps help you grow the most in terms of muscle growth and strength, it is the same with achieving your goals. So when you have a big goal, a dream, get yourself someone who will hold you accountable. Make sure it is someone who also has big goals, someone that is supportive of you and your ideas and has some of their own.

Accountability means being strict with each other about keeping commitments. And you’ll have to agree on the rewards and punishments which you will award yourself depending whether you actually do your daily, weekly,  and monthly tasks. Both partners are taking full responsibility for each other and it goes without saying that if you cheat, you will cheat yourself and that will show.

“I will do it later” This is probably the favorite line of every procrastinator and I admit to having said or thought this myself more than once. You convince yourself that tomorrow is a better day to start with those exercise you know you need to do, you will start tomorrow to manage your finances, you will write that letter tomorrow or make that urgent phone call TOMORROW.

If procrastination is an issue in your life, make a decision now and set a goal into motion by taking action immediately. The second best time to do it is today. Stop putting things that should be done today off till tomorrow or the day after as that might be too late.

But that is not the only reason. Getting things done – completion of projects, however small – gives you a feeling of satisfaction and achievement which in turn strengthens your belief in yourself. Once you get the hang of it, it soon becomes a positive habit. Jim Rohn used to say: “A positive habit repeated every day spells success. A negative habit repeated every day spells disaster.” And he is 100% right. Things will not get done by themselves and the only time you can do them is in the now. That is also the only time that we can control – the now.

Another reason for failing is lack of accountability. Did you know that we get up to 8 times more done when we are accountable? We seem to rise up to the occasion and get that little extra out of ourselves. The easiest way to demonstrate that is with physical exercise. If we do them alone, we usually find plenty of reasons (excuses) to do less than we wanted to but when there is someone else who holds us accountable, who supports and encourages us, we will run that extra mile even if when we think we can’t.

Isn’t it ironical that that last mile is what gets you the best results? As in the gym where the last reps help you grow the most in terms of muscle growth and strength, it is the same with achieving your goals. So when you have a big goal, a dream, get yourself someone who will hold you accountable. Make sure it is someone who also has big goals, someone that is supportive of you and your ideas and has some of their own.

Accountability means being strict with each other about keeping our commitments. And you’ll have to agree on the rewards and punishments you will give yourself depending whether you do your daily, weekly, monthly, and monthly tasks. It goes without saying that if you cheat, you will only cheat yourself.

Why You Need to Plan Your Life

Jim Rohn said: “Most people plan their vacation better than they plan their life” and he is right. Most people do. Isn’t that crazy?

So let’s take the example of  going on holiday. Do you just get into your car, and drive off with no clear idea of where you are going? Granted, doing that could be quite an adventure, but if you wanted to see or do certain things,  you would have some kind of a map or a plan, wouldn’t you? And even before you can really begin to plan, you would need a clear idea of your destination, of the end point of your journey. That makes sense, right? You can’t drive anywhere if you don’t know where you are driving to!

Nonetheless that is what many of us do in our life. We have no clear plan, we have no clear direction. We just drift along hoping to one day be successful, be happy, be fulfilled.

How likely is that to happen?

How can you ever get to any destination if you are not clear where or what that destination is?

I keep hitting this point because about 95% of people I work with don’t know where they want their life to end up – they don’t have a destination, no destiny, no purpose, no real goals – just vague ideas but a vague destination is like shooting in the air hoping to hit a duck. Not likely to happen, is it?

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Don’t despair!

Outside it looks gray and in my heart it also looks gray today. This is not one of my good days!

Why do we have good and bad days? I suppose it has to do with the flow of things. Like with all things in nature our days cannot always be the same and I consider myself very fortunate because most of my days are good to fantastic. But today is not one of them o.)

When I looked at my daily targets this morning I was quite optimistic but now a few long and not very successful (one was actually quite unpleasant) phone calls later I feel quite depressed. I feel I don’t get anything done. I feel that people don’t like me. I feel that it’s is all my fault. To be truthful I feel quite sorry for myself. That means today really is a bad day!

Fortunately I know even in these moments of gloom that the sun will come out again and I will feel wonderful once more. Even in the worse moments of my life I have known that I will survive and be better and stronger than before. There was never a moment that I was in such despair that I could not dream of the light at the end of the tunnel. And that light has always come! Even if you can’t see it when you are down in the pits. It is there and it will also shine on you again if you give it a little time.

Jim Rohn calls it the seasons of life. It is a good comparison because many of us forget spring when we are in the middle of our emotional winter. Just writing this down makes me already feel better. Today is not winter, just a gray day and I was only hit by a breath of chilly air – that is all.

Speak soon
Barbara
www.yoursuccesscycle.com

Traveling is Fun or we must learn the Lessons

Traveling is fun or I must learn the Lessons

I woke before 6 am this morning. As there was no need to get up until 7 I plugged in my MP3 player and listened to a couple of “Lessons of Life” by Jim Rohm. Just before 7 am I got out of bed, took a steam bath, answered a couple of emails, packed my stuff and got ready to leave for the airport around 8.30 am for my flight to London at 10.25.

Normally it takes about 40 Minutes to the airport so I thought there would be plenty of time to stop half way and get a document from the land registry that I had asked for the week anterior. On hindsight I must have been insane to attempt this and it was here where the problems started.

I arrived at the registry 9 Minutes after they had opened thinking that I would be the first but there were several people in front of me. Fortunately my turn came fairly quickly and I handed the girl my request. She started to search in her basket where the document should be, then went into the back office. After a few moments she came back with another lady but still without my document. Together they searched the basket again. Nothing and back into the office they went. I started to get frantic and tried to find out what had happened but living in Southern Spain has its downside as here people will not be pushed to hurry even for a frantic German. Another few precious minutes passed and the girl came back with her superior. “Do you have the original notary document? We could print you what you need while you wait” he told me politely. But by now I was desperate and really did not appreciate his offer so I thanked him and run out of the office and back to my car. It was 55 minutes before flight departure!

Of course I got stuck in a small traffic jam trying to get back on the highway. Another 5 precious minutes passed until that moved. My nerves were frayed and I started racing down the highway passing cars left and right going way past the speed limit. After 15 Minutes the sign for Malaga airport appeared. Another 1,5 km and 40 Minutes till departure. With a bit of luck I might just make it. Just as that thought passed through my mind I realized that everyone seemed to be going to the airport today and another traffic jam build up. I could see the planes landing but only inched my way towards the airport. Desperation set in and I was beating myself up for so much stupidity.

The closer I came the more I got reminded that Malaga airport is an enormous building site with very limited parking facilities. If you have been there in 2006 you will know what I am talking about. Why didn’t I think of that before? I fly in and out at least once a month. Panic set in and only 30 Minutes to go.

I drove up to the departure terminal. Is everybody flying out today? In 6 years I never saw such chaos. You couldn’t even stop for a moment to discharge your luggage. The police was everywhere and tried to control what could not be controlled. A policeman made someone leave and I got in that slot and jumped out trying not to take notice of him. He shouted after me but to no avail. Only 25 Minutes to go.

The counter was already closed but there was still some one there. He was not happy but eventually re-started his computer and gave me a boarding pass telling me I had 10 minutes to get to the plane.

Out I went to my car. Thank god the police are not as fast in Spain as they are in Germany. The poor man was really mad at me but the tow car had not arrived yet so I left without further problems. But I still had the same issue – where to park the car while I was in London?

All 3 parking lots near the departure lounge were inaccessible. I was out of the airport before I knew it. Around the roundabout and back again. Did I see a slot there on my right? This is where the rent-a-car companies are stationed and I never attempted to park there but today was different – today I only had 15 minutes before my plane left.

There a parking sign! In I went but they did not want me to park there – only for rented cars of their company, they said. I pledged and pleaded but the gentleman was adamant. He insisted I leave. To turn around I had to go into their backyard and saw a small exit there into the bushes. Off I went bumping over rocks with my lovely Mercedes but who cared at this stage. All I wanted was to park for a couple of days.

I got my luggage out and as I locked the car the gentleman was back at my side. Now he was not so polite anymore and told me to get lost or he would call the police. A young man came up behind him and said I could not park here but he would help me – finally someone on my side! But you need a contract, he said. NO, I need to get to my plane RIGHT NOW I shouted but to no avail.

He drove me back to the departure lounge while I filled in the contract. Adrian, that was his name, insisted I check his documents but who cared in a moment like this. I sure didn’t. “But Senora, your car is worth over 30,000 Euros. You have to care.” He insisted. Isn’t it amazing how fast our perspectives change? In order not to lose a flight that cost about 100 Euros I entrust a car worth 300 times that much to a total stranger.

To cut the story short I crashed the line at security and ran all the way to the departure gate. By this time my face was red as a beetroot and I arrived there 5 Minutes after regular departure but fortunately – for whatever reason – or was it because of the constant prayers I had sent up to higher powers since realizing how stupid my idea of getting some documents on the way to the airport had been? – The flight was slightly delayed and I entered with the last 2 passengers. Fact is I got the flight – by a hairs breadth and with a lot of “luck” but…

  • What are the lessons to learn?
    Learn from past experience (this was the 3rd time I raced to the airport).
    Plan things that are important to you in a logical manner and follow through.
    Don’t stress yourself in an unnecessary way because it will drain you of all your energy.
    And don’t always think that manifesting your crazy ideas to the universe will help you make them real.

 

If you change perspective, everything changes!

Well, I could come up with several more lessons I hope I finally learned but for now enough is enough!