What is Life Coaching?

In the last few years Life Coaching has become more and more popular but as it is a new profession most people don’t know enough about it to decide whether it is right for them. We hope this article will clarify what coaching is so you can make an educated decision for yourself.

We have all heard of sports coaches. In the old days they were the sports “trainers” but today all high performance sport stars have a mind coach; a person who strengthens their belief in themselves and in their ability to win. Even though Life coaching is not primarily about winning or losing, it is about “winning” the life you choose to live.

Life coaching has become so popular because many of us are tired of doing what we thing we “should” do. We have become aware that we have a choice to do what we want to do!

Be aware that coaching is not a therapy. In therapy the goal is to give you an understanding of your past in order for you to have the awareness of how you became who you are today. Coaching is movement oriented and action based. Where therapy looks back, life coaching looks forward – towards your future and a “better”, more fulfilled YOU.

Your Coach will assist you to identify specific goals and objectives and will help you to stay focused so you can reach those goals faster. A good coach will provide you with the tools, structure and perspective to make the journey easier for you and she/he will make you accountable.

Did you know that people who are accountable are 7 to 10 times more successful than others?

Coaching works in all aspects of your life from relationships, to lifestyle, to career, health and wealth improvements. It focuses on strengthening your skills and improving and trusting your abilities. It helps you to meet and exceed your potential in order to be your best.

Coaching is similar to consulting. Yet, where consulting frequently provides only temporary solutions, coaching is consistent and on going. The Coach stays with the clients to help implement new habits, skills, and changes. Another distinction is that consultants usually give advice and tell people what to do while coaches focus on assisting their clients to discover the solutions themselves. Or in other words, we don’t give you the fish; we teach you how to fish.

We focus on what you want to achieve and help you maintain your commitment to yourself and your dreams and visions. We look at where you are now in relation to where you want to be. Are your ideas and goals based on your true core values? What are your strength and weaknesses and how can we use this knowledge to your advantage?

Our society is looking for a deeper meaning as we begin to understand that we  grow from the inside out. More and more people are freeing their time and resources to invest in themselves because they realize how simple it can be to accomplish something big if you “get a little help from a friend”.

So why not use a trusted friend? As wonderful as it is to have good friends, they are emotionally involved and do not have the objectivity and distance necessary to see where you stand and what type of assistance you need. Have your friends or family ever been shocked because you made a move in a new direction? Have they ever told you that something can’t be done or is not done the way you want to do it? Quite frequently our well meaning friends and family are the “dream stealers” not the supporters we need. Because of the emotional distance a coach is a trusted professional who works with you on improving the most important aspects of your life.

Why would you want a Coach?
You might want a coach because…

  1. you want to grow
  2. you want to be more productive
  3. you want to become more balanced
  4. you want to find new and more efficient ways to do things
  5. you want to make a mark
  6. you want to define and live a life of purpose
  7. you want new perspectives
  8. you want to change certain aspects of your life
  9. you want to reach new goals

How long do you have to commit to your coach?

It is not so much a commitment to your coach as a commitment to yourself. Give yourself time; 3-6 months at least. What has taken you a lifetime to become cannot be changed in a day. However sometimes even one single session can make a life changing difference.

If you need help on a specific short term project, you should consider one-on-one coaching to help you accomplish this specific goal faster.  If you need motivation and a step by step process to move you out of feeling stuck and unfulfilled, do group coaching.

Why does life coaching work?

  1. The synergy created between you and your coach creates momentum.
  2. Better and clearly defined goals support you to move towards your “dream life” faster and with less effort.
  3. You develop new skills and habits which translate into higher success and a more balanced life.

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Barbara Hofmeister
Author and Master Coach

Why Accountability Let’s You Reach Goals

We’ve all heard the word “Accountability” used around achieving goals. Why is that? Is it really that important? Can’t we just do it on our own?

Maybe we could but it’s 8 times more likely that we achieve what we set out to do when we are truly accountable – not only to ourselves. Think back to all the goals you’ve ever set – from the small and short term ones to the biggies. Which goals did you achieve and which didn’t you?

Let’s make a test. Make a list of at least ten goals you remember setting and mark it with a + if you achieved it or a – if you didn’t. This may help you see that most met goals were accomplished with the help of others. Maybe even unintentionally you recruited your spouse, children, parents, a friend or a colleague.

However it happened, fact is, when you have a partner that holds you accountable on doing what you set out to do, you have a much better chance at realizing that goal or project. Without accountability, most people are likely to quit when the going gets tough, or they simply decide it’s not worth the hassle because they forgot why it was so important to them when they set out to do it.

Accountability helps you become clear on exactly what you want, when you want it, and why you want it. That by itself is missing in most people’s goal setting. And when you have at least one accountability partner, who knows what you are aiming for and supports your ideas, you are 8 times more likely to get to the finish line.

While we are usually ok with admitting defeat to ourselves, we don’t like having to admit defeat to others. Accountability works so well because we share our intentions and therefore make them more real to us too. When we share our goals we take responsibility and ownership for them which automatically gives us a more focused drive towards reaching them.

Simply by communicating our plan with others it forces us, like little else does, to truly commit. When we work in a group or team environment using the Mastermind principles, we know we will be asked about our progress. We know our accountability partners will be interested in the entire process of going from where we are today to where we want to go. You almost have no choice but to commit at this stage!

So to summon up: The best way to stay accountable and go from unmet to met goals and dreams is to bring at least one other person into the game like a professional coach or a good Mastermind group.

Just make sure your accountability partner/s will really stretch and challenge you to keep your commitment to yourself – because that is what it is – a commitment to yourself!

I personally love being part of a good Mastermind group because when we weaken in our resolve, there are several that will catch you and help you across the “slippery” patch until you will feel secure and clear again.