How to make New Year Resolutions work

Following is an article from my friend Richard Tan, CEO of Success Resources which echos my sentiments about New Year Resolutions and reaching your goals and dreams:

On the 1st day of  the year, I received the following emails about starting the New Year right. As usual, these were some of the tips offered:

1. Drink less alcohol
2. Eat healthier food
3. Lose weight
4. Get fit
5. Take a trip
6. Volunteer to help others
7. Save more money

There were all kinds of advice that arrived in my inbox covering nearly every topic you can think of. There’s even one that tells you how to backup your hard drive!

The truth is, New Year resolutions tend to get a bad rap for being fruitless. Just ask any of your friends, and they’ll probably tell you that hardly any one of them has fulfilled his or her resolution. It seems like they never stepped out of their old selves, living with stale, self-limiting habits that are stopping them from getting the success they deserve.

Their advice?

Forget about New Year resolutions!

I disagree!

My thought is that since you’re going to break your resolutions like everyone else, just TAKE ACTION anyway! You see, the act of trying HAS value. Even if lasts only a month, a week, an hour…Or even if you’ve only accomplished 10% of your resolutions, at least you made an attempt. It’s better than sitting helplessly on your beanbag chair, giving in to others who want YOU to fail.

Before you start rummaging through your archive of long-forgotten resolutions, remember this: the goals aren’t as important as the process.

As the great poet Ralph Waldo Emerson so wisely puts it: “Life is a journey, not a destination”. It is never too late to start anew to be what you could have been. Life is not just about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself, every day. So get into the habit of persisting with your commitment to change and take action to get your goals. Even if it’s only a small change, you are still taking that all important step closer towards becoming the bigger, better person you are meant to be.

And if your target is nothing, that’s precisely what you’ll get!

So take action now!

Richard Tan, CEO

Success Resources, Singapore

Happy New Year – NY Resolutions are promises

The year 2017 has just started and most of us made some New Year Resolutions last night. My friend KieranRevell send me a great message which I want to share with you as I am in total agreement with what he says. Here it goes:

Subject: NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS ARE PROMISES TO YOURSELF – MAKE YOUR’S TODAY

New Year resolutions are made and broken with monotonous regularity. Though treated lightly, they are in fact promises we make to ourselves about our futures – short medium and long term. When we dismiss them without a second thought and without really trying, we signal our inability to live up to our own expectations and have already begun the spiral of disappointment.

Unfortunately, most resolutions are made flippantly. We look back briefly at the year behind us, order another drink and swear to the four winds we’ll do better next year. So continues the whim. We put no stock in their importance to our lives.

What if you really could have an awesome future? If you knew in your heart you could affect the changes necessary to embrace the life you deserve and only ever dreamed of? Perhaps you know deep down you can do better but up until this point in your life, have lacked the resolve.

Many people will laugh and dismiss your resolutions as useless. ‘Don’t waste your time’? ‘You don’t have the courage to stick to any plan’? ‘Life is pretty good as it is: Why change it’? The list of excuses is endless and unfortunately, we so often take the path of least resistance and surrender even before we begin.

More than 70% of NY resolutions are not acted upon at all: More than 55% fail in the first three months and that increases to almost 80% over 6 months and so on. That doesn’t leave much. At the end you simply have another failed batch of promises. You life is right back where you were: The merry-go-round continues for another 12 months as nothing changes.

Why not make this year different and instead of wishing and hoping, then reverting to old habits, do something concrete? It is possible to lead an extraordinary life. You need only believe in yourself and your plan. Fill your every action with determination, drive, passion and gratitude. Now it’s time to take action.
If you fail to do anything, it’s not the end of your world but life will stagnate for another year. Is that what you want or do you really want to move from where you are, to a point of clarity and absolute prosperity? I know which one I choose!

The following steps will help you build an awesome life, based on the promises you make to yourself:
1. Write your ten most desired goals (short, medium & long term) in your journal;
2. Make the goals realistic & attainable;
3. Write the action needed to take to achieve them;
4. Write mantras/uplifting quotes next to every goal and recite it every day;
5. Create a time frame for each goal;
6. Create a contract with yourself & have it witnessed by a friend or family member;
7. Reward yourself when you achieve each goal, no matter how small;
8. Impose small harmless penalties if you fail to achieve them;
9. Don’t share your resolutions with anyone (they might not support you);
10. Share your results with family members and friends;
11. As you achieve them, cross them out and write in capital letters – ACHIEVED! – all in red pen.
12. Learn to smile and be grateful for even the smallest blessing in your life;
13. Once you do this successfully, you can make resolutions at any time of the year and achieve them.

It’s important you believe beyond question you’re the most important person in the world and your life truly matters: You’ll begin to evolve into the person you want to become. Always carry humility, respect, wisdom, trust, patience, understanding, love, faith, truth, generosity, gratitude and tolerance in your pocket and quietly hold them to your heart when you’re under pressure or unsure of the road you’re travelling.

I wish each and every one of you a safe, happy and incredibly prosperous 2012. With self-belief, determination and a clear plan of action, all things are achievable.

Stop procrastinating and start living. Imagine the possibilities …

With warmth and respect,

Kieran
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How you truly achieve your Goals

It is at this time of year – during the holidays – that most of us reflect on the past year and look at our plans for the New Year. Unfortunately many do not have a plan. They might go as far as to set some half hearted New Year Resolutions just around midnight on the 31st but often these are already forgotten by the middle of January.

WHY?

Because your resolutions are not really what you want. It is more what you think you need to be or do, i.e. “Starting from January I will exercise three times a week, go on a diet, call my parents on a regular basis” etc. But you don’t really want to exercise that much or go on a diet, do you? What you want are the results these actions will bring you!

This is why we need to start with the results we desire before we set goals or set New Year Resolutions. We always have to start with the desired end result in mind.

When you are clear on the result you desire then and only then can you start filling the gap from where you are today to where you want to go and break these necessary actions down into small, achievable steps. That is all really. You just have to make sure you really know what outcome you want to achieve before you start setting goals.

Hear what Brian Tracy has to say about goal setting:

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Will Power is Scarce

Will power is scarce. It really is.
Please, read this article careful as it might be the most important fact you  learn at this time of year when most of us set New Year Resolutions.

According to a fascinating experiment published in the “Journal of Personality and Social Psychology”, one act of self-control depletes your ability to have self-control in another unrelated area. For example, when someone was told not to eat chocolates sitting right in front of them, their
persistence in puzzle solving went down considerably. Allow this to soak in; just staying away from chocolate hurts your performance in all other tasks!

A similar experiment simply asked people to suppress an emotional reaction to a movie. These people had problems solving a solvable anagram while the group who watched the movie without restrictions solved it without problems.

Both studies show that when we are asked to consciously use our “will power” we struggle in all other areas. Actually, we are really only able to use our will power (conscious self regulation) on one thing at a time. So if you are multi-tasking don’t be surprised if not all tasks are finished with the same excellence. If you focus your attention on some other act of self control… You can kiss whatever you were doing goodbye.

This is the overwhelming reason why willpower only works in the short term. You only have the conscious resources to exhibit willpower on ONE (or at the most two) fronts at one time.
This is why it is so hard to stay disciplined with healthy eating habits and exercise for instance.

Source 1: RE Baumeister, E Bratslavsky, M Muraven, and DM Tice. “Ego Depletion: Is the Active Self a Limited
Resource” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, vol. 74, 1998.
Source 2: Moraven, M., Tice, D. M., & Baumeister, R. F. (1998). “Self-control as a limited resource

Source 3: Zimmerman, M. (1989). “The nervous system in the context of information theory.” In R. F. Schmidt & G. Thews (eds.), Human Physiology, pp. 166-173. Berlin, Germany: Springer-Verlag.

Your conscious mind is only able to process approximately 50 bits of information a second, while your unconscious mind processes approximately 1,2 million bits per second.

That means your unconscious mind processes information THOUSANDS OF TIMES FASTER than your conscious mind.
Much of the time, your conscious mind is actually the bottleneck towards effecting true change, as its main role is getting you through the day in the here and now AND setting long term goals. Researchers call this “Executive Control.”

So the trick is to train your subconscious mind to think better, more positive and supportive thoughts. Wouldn’t it be nice if you naturally were propelled forward, towards living your dreams without having to use willpower?

Wouldn’t it be nice if you automatically had the behaviors you have always wanted to have; the behaviors that you need to actually get you where you want to go?

Well, strange as it seems, all you need to do is learn to use even a small part of your subconscious by starting to allow only supportive thoughts into your consciousness. As in all else the choice is yours. I share several techniques with you in my book “To be or not to be – the choice is YOURS!”

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Get the “TO BE” book NOW!

Today I want to make a shameless pitch. You are not used to that as I normally don’t sell but a girl must make a living 🙂

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I wish from my heart that you will find the true, powerful you in the book. You can get the TO BE book either on Amazon or www.TheToBeBook.com

Inside the TO BE book you will

  • start to see the greatness in you… page 8
  • see how well meaning advice is stopping you… page 53
  • have the right support to really live your dreams… page 83
  • paint a picture of your ‘perfect’ life… page 69
  • understand why NewYear resolutions don’t work… page 11
  • decide who and what is good for you… page74
  • learn how to balance your life… page 78
  • laugh at the worries you used to have… page 123
  • give an empowering promise to yourself… page 12
  • understand how powerful living in purpose is… page 43
  • stop being the victim once and for all… page 199
  • make sure you are going in the right direction… page 84
  • attain happiness through this very simple little habit… page  60
  • realize who and what is responsible for your life… page 15
  • understand that super achievers are no better than you… page 130
  • recognize who you truly want to become… page 23
  • become crystal clear on what needs to be done… page 169
  • learn how to grow your confidence… page 98
  • understand why you did not reach past goals… page 167
  • clearly see your future 5 years from now… page 29
  • recognize fears and overcome them… page 103
  • become aware of your values and beliefs…  page 135
  • appreciate the importance of failures… page 46
  • know what it is you really want… page 20
  • start living your vivid vision on a daily basis… page 182
  • become an expert in motivating yourself… page 57
  • realize what underlying beliefs create your self talk… page 62
  • know that you always have a choice in life… page 44
  • clearly define your destiny and purpose… page 146
  • learn that you can have anything you want… page 36
  • get a choice of different tools to balance your life… page 193
  • model the people you admire… page 67
  • make a personal declaration of independence… page 47
  • analyze 121 thoughts to focus only on positives… page 189
  • become clear how and when you make excuses… page 51
  • reward yourself for all your big and small achievements… page 86
  • look at your lost opportunites and how to avoid them… page 48
  • take first steps towards going from dream to reality… page 155
  • strengthen your belief in yourself and your abilities… page 91
  • define what are real opportunities… page 49
  • recognize how and when other’s disempower you… page 55
  • use a step by step process to achieve ANY goal… page 174
  • look forward instead of back… page 94
  • realize why we quit when we are adults… page 46
  • appreciate your positive qualities… page 95
  • realize that you are good enough… page 107
  • create a clear vision of your dream life… page 26
  • let go of worry… page 113
  • make a personal declaration of happiness… page 59
  • snap away your negative self talk… page 61
  • face your challenges and overcome them… page 117
  • learn which events made you into who you are today… page 16
  • declare your purpose to the universe… page 147
  • having total power over your life… page 204
  • discover the REAL POWERFUL YOU!

and be highly motivated to taking the right action steps

to TRULY LIVE YOUR DREAMS!

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