What is Life Coaching?

In the last few years Life Coaching has become more and more popular but as it is a new profession most people don’t know enough about it to decide whether it is right for them. We hope this article will clarify what coaching is so you can make an educated decision for yourself.

We have all heard of sports coaches. In the old days they were the sports “trainers” but today all high performance sport stars have a mind coach; a person who strengthens their belief in themselves and in their ability to win. Even though Life coaching is not primarily about winning or losing, it is about “winning” the life you choose to live.

Life coaching has become so popular because many of us are tired of doing what we thing we “should” do. We have become aware that we have a choice to do what we want to do!

Be aware that coaching is not a therapy. In therapy the goal is to give you an understanding of your past in order for you to have the awareness of how you became who you are today. Coaching is movement oriented and action based. Where therapy looks back, life coaching looks forward – towards your future and a “better”, more fulfilled YOU.

Your Coach will assist you to identify specific goals and objectives and will help you to stay focused so you can reach those goals faster. A good coach will provide you with the tools, structure and perspective to make the journey easier for you and she/he will make you accountable.

Did you know that people who are accountable are 7 to 10 times more successful than others?

Coaching works in all aspects of your life from relationships, to lifestyle, to career, health and wealth improvements. It focuses on strengthening your skills and improving and trusting your abilities. It helps you to meet and exceed your potential in order to be your best.

Coaching is similar to consulting. Yet, where consulting frequently provides only temporary solutions, coaching is consistent and on going. The Coach stays with the clients to help implement new habits, skills, and changes. Another distinction is that consultants usually give advice and tell people what to do while coaches focus on assisting their clients to discover the solutions themselves. Or in other words, we don’t give you the fish; we teach you how to fish.

We focus on what you want to achieve and help you maintain your commitment to yourself and your dreams and visions. We look at where you are now in relation to where you want to be. Are your ideas and goals based on your true core values? What are your strength and weaknesses and how can we use this knowledge to your advantage?

Our society is looking for a deeper meaning as we begin to understand that we  grow from the inside out. More and more people are freeing their time and resources to invest in themselves because they realize how simple it can be to accomplish something big if you “get a little help from a friend”.

So why not use a trusted friend? As wonderful as it is to have good friends, they are emotionally involved and do not have the objectivity and distance necessary to see where you stand and what type of assistance you need. Have your friends or family ever been shocked because you made a move in a new direction? Have they ever told you that something can’t be done or is not done the way you want to do it? Quite frequently our well meaning friends and family are the “dream stealers” not the supporters we need. Because of the emotional distance a coach is a trusted professional who works with you on improving the most important aspects of your life.

Why would you want a Coach?
You might want a coach because…

  1. you want to grow
  2. you want to be more productive
  3. you want to become more balanced
  4. you want to find new and more efficient ways to do things
  5. you want to make a mark
  6. you want to define and live a life of purpose
  7. you want new perspectives
  8. you want to change certain aspects of your life
  9. you want to reach new goals

How long do you have to commit to your coach?

It is not so much a commitment to your coach as a commitment to yourself. Give yourself time; 3-6 months at least. What has taken you a lifetime to become cannot be changed in a day. However sometimes even one single session can make a life changing difference.

If you need help on a specific short term project, you should consider one-on-one coaching to help you accomplish this specific goal faster.  If you need motivation and a step by step process to move you out of feeling stuck and unfulfilled, do group coaching.

Why does life coaching work?

  1. The synergy created between you and your coach creates momentum.
  2. Better and clearly defined goals support you to move towards your “dream life” faster and with less effort.
  3. You develop new skills and habits which translate into higher success and a more balanced life.

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Barbara Hofmeister
Author and Master Coach

Find a strong reason WHY

Frequently people find it easier to come up with excuses (they call them reasons) for not doing things they know must be done than with ideas on how best to do them.

Could you one of those?

Jim Rohn said: “When your WHY is strong enough the how becomes easy.”

This means when your reasons why you need to do something are bigger than your excuses, you will make progress toward your goals. Logical, isn’t it?

It also means you have to come up with the reasons why you really should accomplish something before there is time to come up with the excuses that will for sure hold you back.  Works best if you read this twice!

You see, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious logical mind and it will work on achieving whatever you give it to work on. In most cases we give it doubt, fear, scarcity, and other negative thoughts.  What do people who lack money most often think about? Money. But not in an empowering way, caring and sharing way.  They think of their lack of it, sometimes look at others who have more with envy, are frustrated because life is not as “it should be” etc.

If you give yourself great positive reasons why you want to achieve a specific goal, your subconscious will immediately take you at your word and begin working toward that goal. And it will keep working on that goal until instructed to do otherwise (and “otherwise” means until those negative excuses sneak back into your thinking).

That is why you need to feed your subconscious with great care because no matter what you feed your mind on it works incessantly on getting you the results it believes you want. The challenge is that those are also the thoughts you planted into it. For instance, when you watched a violent film on TV, or read about a disaster in the newspaper or watch a mindless cheating show. But those are not the results you want, are they? Or are they?

Take a minute, right now, and write down what it is you really want.


Write down all the reasons why you should have it and how it would benefit you and others


If you go through these steps you imprint your positive thoughts on your subconscious mind. And please don’t write out your excuses, they will come up by themselves more often than is good for you. Just focus on your positive reasons why and write those down to internalize them into your subconscious.

And then – Take action RIGHT NOW.

Take one first small step and experience how good it feels to move forward, to move towards your goal, without worrying about excuses or other roadblocks.

Did you take your first action? GREAT – you got your first result.

If you didn’t – why not?
I will leave some space here so you can fill in your excuses…

Move in the right direction! As always, the choice is yours!

Wishing you a fantastic WHY

Barbara Hofmeister

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Are you grateful?

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.” – Henry David Thoreau

I often wonder when I hear the moaning and groaning of some people. Unless you give the conversation another direction it seems all they want to do is complain what is going wrong in their life, always putting the blame on others.

Sometimes we have to let issues that are eating us up out but it cannot be the main objective of a meeting with a friend and even less the objective of a coaching session. That is why I want to talk about gratitude because every one of us has so much to be grateful for.

For example:

– You have at least a decent education; otherwise you would not be able to use a computer to find this blog.
– You have a computer or the money to go to an Internet Cafe.
– Unless of course you read this at work or in school which means you can be grateful to have a job and/or to get an education.
– You are most likely to have a roof over your head and some food to put into your tummy.
– You probably have friends who love and respect you for what and who you are.
… the list can go on.

I have a very long list of things I am grateful for and whenever my life doesn’t seem to play the way I want it to or if I feel a little down, I go through my list and my mood changes instantly.

At night before I go to sleep I say thanks for all the good things that happened on that day.

This morning I woke up to the most glorious sunrise. Can you imagine that I am grateful for that? You bet I am. It was a lovely gift at the beginning of the day.

There are so many, small and big, things we take for granted until we don’t have them anymore. Just think of the way we treat our health most of the time – junk food, sodas, excessive sugar and so on.

Take a short time out and look at the people and things you can be grateful for in your life. Write your personal list and have it with you or close by. It will motivate and inspire you whenever you need some uplift.

Have a happy day



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