You are not me and I am not you. What drives me is not the same that drives you. This is vital to understand if you want to stay motivated while working on reaching your goals and dreams.
The secret is to find the motivators, the drivers that really get you going and keep you going. Find your motivational DNA by asking yourself these easy questions. It will take a few moments. However once you are aware what really drives you, you will never have to look again. You will be and will stay motivated and will know how you can make yourself walk towards your dreams!
At this time of year I usually wake up with the sunrise. Today it was absolutely stunning and I did my short exercise session on the terrace watching the sun rise over the sea and the colors of the clouds change. What more can one ask from life?
Not having to do exercise some might say and I would lie if I say that I never feel like missing a day. You see, it is only about 6 weeks since I exercise again on a regular basis. Before I did Yoga with my neighbor but that was very irregular, anything between 1 and 3 times a week. Better than nothing but nowhere near enough.
Before I moved to Spain in 2000 and got caught up working through the Internet (of course that was my own decision) I went to a fitness studio 3-5 times a week and was in really good shape. Since then I have gone through menopause and my body has changed and needs to move more than ever but it costs me more than ever to actually make myself do it. Why?
Because I broke what had been a very good habit and exchanged it for something new – my computer! Unfortunately those new habits were not very good for me. Then why did you do it, you might ask. Well, most changes, whether positive or as in my case, negative don’t happen overnight. Gradually I found more and more reasons why I couldn’t go the studio and within a few weeks I went from 5 to 3 times, to 2 times, to 1 time, to only occasionally and then I stopped altogether as I moved country. And of course being new there I had even more reasons not to train.
The less you do sports (or whatever it is you are supposed to do) the more difficult it seems. Just ask someone who is obese and loves fast food. The disempowering habit becomes so much part of them that they cannot imagine it any other way anymore. And if you ever become consciously aware what you are doing to yourself, you will easily find a good excuse why right now it really is absolutely impossible to change. And most probably you will add that it is not a problem because you can stop whatever you are doing and take up your good habit again anytime. And you can but it is not as easy as one might hope.
Moving into disempowering habits seems easier and is exactly how you get into the habit of smoking, drinking too much alcohol or taking drugs. You tell yourself: “I can stop it anytime”. In most cases “any time” never comes.
Until I seriously got into Simpleology I would find all kind of excuses as a way out of regular exercise. Each Mondy when I planned my week I tried to include some sports but somehow it always got thrown out for more “important” things. Doing my daily target praxis from this multi-media course by Mark Joyner finally got me more disciplined again and I can now see myself moving much faster towards my goals and dreams. And the best is the 101 course is FREE.
Like my “To be” system it is an ongoing program that nudges you gently in the right direction in tiny steps and before you know it you have broken out of a bad habit back into a good one. Try it out. You will need a little patience before you see real results but if you stick with it the results will absolutely astound you. It got me from rarely exercising to daily exercise and from occasional meditation to daily meditation, from weekly goal setting to daily targets etc. And seeing the small positive differences each and every day is what will drive you on. Remember, change 1 % a day means having changed 365 % in one year!
One of the reasonswhy people do not reach their goals…
is that they are not accountable to anyone (in many cases not even to themselves!). Did you know that we work 7 to 9 times better when we have someone that we are accountable to? We seem to rise up to the occasion and get that little extra out of ourselves.
The easiest way to illustration that is in with our exercise routine. How often have you wanted to start a daily exercise routine but got distracted or were too lazy and found a good reason (or better said excuse) not to do it today because… But when you exercise with a friend, a colleague or a neighbor, you will pull yourself out of bed and put on your sneekers to meet your partner and do it anyway.
If you want to reach your goal, get your self someone whom you can be accountable to. Make sure that the person you pick has their own goals and is as committed as you to reach them. They should be supportive of your ideas and goals. Let them know that you wish them to be strict with you whenever you try to stray. That is why coaching works so well. You pay them to keep you on track. That way you have something at stake that you don’t want to lose.
A good accountability partner is invaluable to your success and if both of you have similar goals in mind it works even better.
If you don’t have someone you can work with, get yourself a coach or join a mastermind group.
We’ve all heard the word “Accountability” used around achieving goals. Why is that? Is it really that important? Can’t we just do it on our own?
Maybe we could but it’s 8 times more likely that we achieve what we set out to do when we are truly accountable – not only to ourselves. Think back to all the goals you’ve ever set – from the small and short term ones to the biggies. Which goals did you achieve and which didn’t you?
Let’s make a test. Make a list of at least ten goals you remember setting and mark it with a + if you achieved it or a – if you didn’t. This may help you see that most met goals were accomplished with the help of others. Maybe even unintentionally you recruited your spouse, children, parents, a friend or a colleague.
However it happened, fact is, when you have a partner that holds you accountable on doing what you set out to do, you have a much better chance at realizing that goal or project. Without accountability, most people are likely to quit when the going gets tough, or they simply decide it’s not worth the hassle because they forgot why it was so important to them when they set out to do it.
Accountability helps you become clear on exactly what you want, when you want it, and why you want it. That by itself is missing in most people’s goal setting. And when you have at least one accountability partner, who knows what you are aiming for and supports your ideas, you are 8 times more likely to get to the finish line.
While we are usually ok with admitting defeat to ourselves, we don’t like having to admit defeat to others. Accountability works so well because we share our intentions and therefore make them more real to us too. When we share our goals we take responsibility and ownership for them which automatically gives us a more focused drive towards reaching them.
Simply by communicating our plan with others it forces us, like little else does, to truly commit. When we work in a group or team environment using the Mastermind principles, we know we will be asked about our progress. We know our accountability partners will be interested in the entire process of going from where we are today to where we want to go. You almost have no choice but to commit at this stage!
Just make sure your accountability partner/s will really stretch and challenge you to keep your commitment to yourself – because that is what it is – a commitment to yourself!
I personally love being part of a good Mastermind group because when we weaken in our resolve, there are several that will catch you and help you across the “slippery” patch until you will feel secure and clear again.