Getting Things Done

“The pain lies in the difference of what we think should happen and what actually happens” – Vernon Howard

Getting things done

In earlier posts I talked a lot about acountability. I personally know it is what makes me produce double and sometimes even triple what I normally do and with less stress.

My experience shows it to be extremely effective and inspiring to work in a group setting in which  accountability and commitment play an important part. If you are not ready to join our “TO BE
successful” mentoring program, find a friend, colleague or family member who also has serious goals and intends to reach them and make an arrangement with them.

DO NOT JOIN FORCES WITH THE TALKERS!

JOIN FORCES WITH THE DOERS!

Talkers vs Doers

I am sure you know someone who seems to be successful in their career but when you really look into it, they are just mediocre or even under performers. Those are the talkers. They talk about
success, about achievements and probably would really like to have them, but don’t actually get around to them because things get in the way continuously. Those are the “busy” people who do not have too much to show for their efforts. I was one of them for quite a while so I know what I am talking about.

The doers on the other hand make fast decisions and get stuff done without discussing and displaying it all first. Those are the ones you should seek out as accountability partners. But fasten your seat belt because they usually move fast and expect you to do the same.

Be successful!
Barbara

If you can’t change what is going on… achieve goals

“If you can’t change what is going on around you,
you have to change yourself.” – Victor Hugo

Have you ever noticed that nowhere and now here are spelled exactly the same? Isn’t that interesting? From nowhere to now here…

Dr. Wayne Dyer said that on a conference call and it gave me plenty of food for thought. How often have you worked your xxx off and still didn’t seem to get anywhere? You got nowhere but are you HERE NOW?

What am I driving at?

The only time we can achieve anything is when we are really 100% focused and concentrate all our energy to hit one single target at the time.

Let me give you a simple example. A few years ago Bon Jovi was on tour in Europe. Being a big fan I wanted to see them as often as possible while they were here. A friend got me a ticket for Luxemburg. He was doing the power for the concert and told me he would have no time to see me. But I had driven 5 hours to Luxemburg to see Bon Jovi and now that I was there I also wanted to see my friend who I had not seen in about 3 years. He was backstage somewhere and I had no pass. I made a decision to see him and set out on achieving that.

You cannot imagine the stories I invented to talk my way past at least 6 security guards but my focus was so much on finding my friend that I never questioned getting to him. I did not think once how near impossible it is to get backstage unless you are a beautiful young blonde -.) and even then it is difficult.  All I wanted was to see my friend and I did.  As an added bonus for being so persistant I not only had a great reunion with my friend but  also got a glimpse of Jon Bon Jovi and Ritchie Sambora as they walked past us plus got to be right in front of the stage for the whole concert. Paradise, I tell you even at my age!

The next concert was in Cologne and with the same intensity I talked my way into the stadium, the VIP area with full catering and again got into the fenced off part in front of the stage. Don’t ask me how I did it. I just did because that was my sole target for the day and I gave it all my energy.

One would think after 2 such “successes” I could do it again anytime but I tried it again the next day – this time without knowing anybody – and I got in as far as the press booth but there was no way I could talk them into letting me back- or even front stage. I had done it – my focus, my energy for this particular target was gone. Everything that I had aimed at was achieved and I could not muster the same energy for a result that was not really important anymore.

And that is the difference. We cannot be 100% focused at all times but when we know exactly what we want; when we see the target clearly; we can achieve anything!

Do you think Gandhi believed he could change the history of his country when he started his campaign for the freedom of India? Or Nelson Mandela when he was a violent youth fighting for the freedom of his people? No, they could not but they could see a vision bigger than themselves and they tackled it step by tiny and often difficult and painful step. They did not get deterred even by torture and long prison sentences because they could always and under all circumstances see their big dream in front of them.

Are you like that? Can you stay focused and concentrate only on your vision?
Most of us can’t so let’s make a test.

  • Get yourself a small notepad that fits into your purse or pocket and take note each time you get distracted from the task at hand – by a telephone call, a chat with a friend or colleague, getting stuck in a flood of emails, surfing the web longer than planned…
  • Write down your most important one week and your one to three months targets and observe DAILY in writing what you did to get closer to it and how you diverted from reaching it.

You will be amazed how often you get sidetracked even by your own thoughts and suddenly the day is finished and you wonder what you actually did all day.

From nowhere to NOW HERE! The only time we get things done efficiently is when we are 100% in the HERE and NOW – on target in the present moment with our full attention and energy.

Try it out and let me know your resul

Have a focused week
Barbara Hofmeister
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Accountability – your Path to Success

Accountability is the No. 1 reason why some people make  things happen while others only talk about them. If you are one of  the go getters, you probably already know this. However I believe we all have strength and weaknesses and it is good when we become more aware of either. So stay with me as this cannot hurt you but it might make you even stronger and more committed to your success.
I remember when my first coach told me to write him an email every single night I did not take it serious. I said ok and forgot it. He had said it very politely and I did not think it was a requirement. I soon found out I was wrong and it taught me a big lesson.

He reminded me of my commitment when we next spoke and I thought to myself “Oh why bother. I know what I am doing.” but he did not take that lightly and I will be forever grateful to him for doing that.

On our third appointment he asked me if I think coaching works and of course I said yes. Why else would I pay him to coach me, right?

“So why don’t you do your accountability every night?” he asked.
“Oh, I am doing everything I said I would. I just don’t send it to you.” was my fast and not completely truthful answer.
“Even if you don’t feel it is necessary, it would help the process a lot.” was his request. And he went on to tell me the story of another client and how accountability had helped.

To cut the story short, I started to do as asked and do it until today. It has become a habit that I would not miss for the world and tomorrow I will tell you why.

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Trade in who you’ve been for who you must become…

Too many people give up digging three feet from their goldmine. That is the wrong way to do it. Because once you are sure what it is you want, you need to keep moving (in the right direction please).

The important thing is that you need to have your dreams and goals in front of your inner eye and if you continue to walk towards it – step by small step – success will come to pass as long as you don’t give up along the way. If you stop, you lose.

Adopt the attitude that eventually you will succeed and success will not be denied. As long as you stick to your dreams, challenges will be overcome. Actually, I believe obstacles show up to help us become more resilient.

Les Brown says it best: “You must trade in who you’ve been for who you must become” Isn’t that a profound statement? Think about it. Now look into your future and be brutally honest with yourself. What type of person must you be in the future in order to truly become who you desire to be?

What qualities and characteristics does that person possess that you do not have yet?

What do you particularly like about the person you want to become?

Look at the differences and diagnose them to see what changes you have to make to become the ultimate you? Completing this exercise can be very eye-opening.

An important thing you will discover is that you will win once you believe that you can.  Success requires a different mindset than most people have. A big part of that mindset is developing a never give up mentality. It is possible for you to complete each task you begin with that mentality. Giving up robs you of the joy that’s sure to come as you check off tasks that you’ve completed on route to your goal.

Remember the words of Jack Canfield: “You deserve to have your life exactly the way you want it.” I believe that quote with everything within me. The challenge is to believe the quote and realize that it may take a year, or two, or three for your life to be exactly as planned. The question is do you give up along the way? I have confidence in you that you will make it through to the end.

Mastermind to Success – Take the Opportunity NOW

Masterminding allows us to lean on each other and live our life with efficiency and clarity of purpose. It provides us with tools for self-discovery, growth and transformation.

The concept of the Mastermind was formally introduced by Napoleon Hill in the early 1900’s through his book “Think and Grow Rich” It is an extremely powerful concept that has been somewhat diluted and misused in business and personal development circles in the last few years. Let me explain what a real Mastermind group is and how it works.

In a true Mastermind group you will find synergy, commitment, and support.  The beauty of Masterminds is that participants raise the bar by challenging each other to create and implement goals, to brainstorm ideas, and to support each other with integrity, respect and compassion.  Members of our Mastermind groups hold each other accountable and act as catalysts for growth, devil’s advocates and supportive colleagues!

In his timeless classic, “Think And Grow Rich” Napoleon Hill  wrote about the Mastermind principle as:

“The coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people, who work toward a definite purpose, in the spirit of harmony.”

He continues …

“No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.”

In a Mastermind Group, the agenda belongs to the group, and each person’s participation is key to it’s success.  Your peers give you feedback, help you brainstorm new possibilities, and set up accountability structures that keep you focused and on track. You create a community of supportive colleagues who brainstorm together to move the group and each of its participants to new heights.

You’ll gain tremendous insights, which can improve your business and your personal life. Your MasterMind Group is like having a objective board of directors (something you will not find too often in business 🙂

What will you gain from being part of a true Mastermind group?

  • Experience, skills and confidence
  • Real progress in your business and personal life
  • An instant and invaluable support network
  • A sense of shared endeavor – there are others out there!
  • Design things to be the way you want them to be, not as people say they “should” be
  • accountability and a stronger commitment to the outcome you desire

Who should participate?

People who:

  • still have dreams and goals they want to achieve
  • have the desire to make this year extraordinary
  • want a supportive team of Mastermind partners
  • who are willing to work with others
  • want to reach or exceed their goals
  • are ready to overcome their fears and doubts
  • want to move our of their comfort zone and into an empowered life

How does it work?

–  We meet online on a weekly basis for about 1 hour

–  We have a special message board only for our group

– Our group is intimate and small – maximum 12 active members

Attention! The TO BE Mastermind group is by inviation only. We start the Mastermind together. anyone can join for the first few weeks while the group is forming. After one month the group decides by majorty vote who will continue. That way we make sure group members are compatible and commited.

Special Bonus: You get access to the Success Cycle weekly Gold Membership (47$ value per month)

It has been scientifically proven that it is 7 times more likely

that you stay on track  when you are accountable!!!

If you want to succeed

If you want to succeed faster

If you want to succeed faster in life

If you want to succeed faster in life and in business

JOIN the TO BE Mastermind Group NOW!

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The Power of Concentration

Do you ever get distracted?

Do you ever mean to do one thing and then find yourself doing another?

Do you ever lack concentration?

If you can say no to any of the above – CONGRATULATIONS! You are fairly unique.

There are not many people out there who are truly able to fully concentrate for any length of time. Research shows it is only between 1-3 % of the population. Could that be the 1-3 % of the population who truly make it in life?

Would you agree that it would be of the greatest value if we learned how to concentrate? The amount of focus you have on your important tasks determine your success. To make a true success of anything you must be able to concentrate your entire thought upon the idea you are working on. The person that is able to concentrate utilizes all constructive thoughts and shuts out all destructive ones. The greatest man would accomplish nothing if he lacked concentration and got distracted from his main objectives.

Yet we all know that in order to accomplish a certain task we must concentrate on it. So it is of the utmost value to learn how to concentrate especially when working on a new idea or a new business. As soon as we are laser focused we will move forward but if we are wishy washy and half hearted nothing will happen except frustration because so much valuable time has passed without seeing results.

Let me repeat: To make a success of anything you must be able to concentrate your entire thought upon the idea you are working out. Do not become discouraged, if you are unable to hold your thought on the subject very long at first. There are very few that can. It seems a peculiar fact that it is easier to concentrate on something that is no good for us, than on something that is beneficial.

This tendency is overcome when we learn to concentrate consciously. If you will just practice a few concentration exercises each day you will soon develop this wonderful power. Success is assured when you are able to concentrate for you are then able to utilize for your good all constructive thoughts and shut out all the destructive ones.

Have you ever made a decision to do something – could be in your work, hobby or family life and then set out to do it with the unwavering belief that it will happen? You probably have but in case you do not remember let me give you an example. When I started the Achievers Toastmasters Club I was laser focused because I really wanted a Club that stood for all the positive things Toastmasters offers. The first Club I had belonged to had turned bitchy and unpleasant and I did not want to be part of it anymore.

After making the decision to start a new Club I did not take No for an answer anymore. My only thoughts were on how to get the right people to join and I did everything in my power to achieve that.

The club that still lives my vision today

The club that still lives my vision today

Within 6 weeks we were chartered and should you ever come to the Costa del Sol, you must visit The Achievers TMC because it really stands for the positive, learning environment Toastmasters International propagates. The Club is now more than 7 years old and even though our members change (and I left the country) the vision I had of the Club has not changed and it can be felt at each meeting.

It is of the greatest value to be able to think only that which will be beneficial; that which you really want and not how to avoid what you don’t want. Did you ever stop to think what an important part your thoughts, concentrated thoughts, play in your life? We are wonderful creatures, but we must continue to train and develop to reach our goals. Anything can be accomplished by every man if he can be awakened to do his very best.

That is why Anthony Robbins talks about “Awaken the Giant within” but the greatest man would not accomplish much if he lacked concentration and effort. If you study success you will know that people with very bad grades in school have achieved incredible things. You will have read the stories of the timid young man who became a powerful entrepreneur even though outside his field he is still shy. Dwarfs can do the work of giants when they are transformed by the magic power of great mental concentration. But even giants could only do the work of dwarfs when they lack this power.

We accomplish more by concentration than by knowledge; the man that is apparently best suited for a pposition does not always fill it best. It is the man that concentrates on its every possibility that makes an art of both his work and his life. As in all other good things in life your real advancement will come from your individual effort.

Therefore make a plan each day of the most important tasks that will get you where you want to go – set clear priorites. Make this time a time in which you will not be disturbed by phone calls, meetings, children, spouses or your favorite telenovela. This time is only for you and your goals. Depending on how good your power of concentration already is start with a minimum of 30 minutes and work yourself up bit by bit. Find out what your best time of day is to concentrate.

For me it is first thing in the morning, for one of my best friends it is in the late evening. Use that time to move you forward – towards your dreams and goals.

Today is your day! Use it wisely
Love Barbara

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Create the right Habits

“It is not impossibilities that fill us with deepest despair, but possibilities that we have failed to realize.” – Robert Mallet, Poet

Only a tiny percentage of the world unleashes the full potential in their life. Statistics say it’s 2% or 3%, which is a very small minority.

What do the other 97% do? What do they have in common?

One of their biggest commonalities is that they choose ‘pleasing methods’ over ‘pleasing results’.

How do I mean that. Well I mean success isn’t natural, sitting on your butt and failing consequently is.
97% of the world want to do just the easy things and they want to use only the easy methods. That is why everybody is looking for the quick fix and prefers an unhealthy pill over a more healthy lifestyle.

But isn’t it much more interesting to find our what the other 3% have in common?

The biggest differences between the 97% and the 3% is the 3% make a habit of doing the things they don’t like to do first.

You have heard right. Better read it again.

The biggest differences between the 97% and the 3% is that the 3% make a habit of doing the things they don’t like to do first.

Naturally nobody enjoys doing the things they don’t want to do, so why do the 3% take action?

The answer is because they don’t focus on the process, they focus on the result; on the benefits they get out of taking that action. And this shift in focus turns the ordinary into extraordinary, mediocrity into abundance. When you focus on the process, procrastination becomes your best friend.

Action Steps

Ask yourself:
1. What is ONE thing I don’t want to do today, but if I did it, it would move my life or my business forward?
2. How will I benefit from doing it?
3. Write it down
4. and DO IT.

Taking action and doing one thing a day you don’t want to do is worth fighting for.

Remember, people form habits and habits form futures. Cultivate habits that lead to wisdom, happiness, and riches. If you need a push once in a while let me coach you in creating your new habits because habits predict the outcome of our lives. We have to form the right personal and financial habits to be able to live our full potential.

I trust you to do the first thing first

I believe in YOU.
Barbara
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Define what you really want clearly

New Year is coming up when we usually make New Year resolutions. Naturally we all want to succeed but the majority doesn’t know how to clearly define success.

We have talked about this before. If you don’t really know what you want you are highly unlikely to get it. You need to have real clarity about your intentions … what it is you really, really want to experience in your life.

Most people desire to be rich. What does rich mean to you and why do you want wealth?

Years ago I saw a beggar in the streets of Sri Lanka and I could see from his eyes and his smile that he was rich – not rich in worldly goods but rich in true happiness and contentment. What type of wealth, what type of riches do you want and most importantly WHY? Apart from the obvious THINGS like dream holidays, a nice house or a new car but that is just a small part of wealth, isn’t it?

Why do you want wealth?

Do you want wealth in order to have lots of money in the bank or do you want it for the joy and freedom it gives you; for the experiences you can have because you are wealthy and don’t have to worry about tomorrow’s food or roof over your head? Give this a moment of thought.

Why do you really want wealth?

If people have everything they want, it is because they were very clear about what they wanted to experience. Everyone else who still feels unfulfilled, and this is about 99% of the population, needs to get true clarity about what they want to experience. Only real clarity is power.

Many people talk only about things, about the objects they want in their lives, like a beautiful house but in fact, what really makes people happy is the experience of living in that beautiful house.

Let me give you an example – I love sailing and have always dreamt of having a really sleek sailing yacht but I never bought one. First because I did not have the money and later because I did not really want the responsibility that goes with maintaining a boat. Still the yearning remained until I realized I want the feeling of absolute peace and oneness with nature that signifies sailing for me and I don’t need to own a yacht to have this experience. I can charter one whenever and wherever I feel like it. It is the experience of being on the sea listening to the water glide past and the sound of the sails that turns me on, that gives me this sensation of utter peace – not the yacht itself.

The strange thing is that if you focus on the object only, like the yacht or the dream home, you are actually limiting yourself because the strongest manifestation is through emotion, is through sensation, through the experience itself. The object is just the vehicle.

Unfortunately most people think the vehicle is what they want and therefore manifest that but what we really want is the feeling, the experience of peace, freedom, and joy. If we concentrate on that, we find that we are able to get these emotions in a variety of ways, and may have but don’t need to have the object itself to feel the satisfaction. If I had no money I could work on a yacht to get that feeling, couldn’t I?

Ask yourself what it is you really want? What do you want to experience in your life and then think of ways how to achieve that.

Happy experience,
Barbara
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YOU are Powerful beyond Measure

What do I mean by that?
Maybe I can demonstrate what I mean through a poem written by Marianne Williamson. This poem was used by Nelson Mandela in his Inauguration speech in 1994. For me the words are extremely powerful and inspiring.

 
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves WHO AM I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
 
Actually, who are you not to be!
Our playing small does not save the world.
 
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking,
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

You are born to make manifest to the glory of God that is within us;
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other’s permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fears,
our presence automatically liberates others.”

These are inspiring words, aren’t they? Let them inspire you to really go all out and reach whatever it is that you dream of. Why? Because you deserve to reach it, you deserve to live your dreams! This is what we are here for. We have just “forgotten” it while life came in the way.During the course of our life we seem to forget all the big dreams we had when we were young and believed we could do anything. The question is why does life get in the way? Why do so many of us arrive at a stage where there seem to be more obligations than motivations?

The main reason is that most of us have let ourselves be “programmed” for mediocrity. We have not been told or taught that we can be powerful beyond measure. Since early childhood we are conditioned to swim with the swarm, to stay in the crab basket we call humanity and there will always be enough people around us who will remind us of it – but in spite of all this, we have a choice at any one moment of our life.
We really can do what we are here to do – if only we do!To your success!

It goes like this:

 

I am sure you heard the saying “If you believe it you can achieve it”. And that is really true. You can chose to live your life in mediocrity or you can chose to live the life of your dreams. If you are not 100 % happy with the way life is going, it is up to you to do something about it. Doing nothing is a decision, the same as changing things is.

Let’s talk further about that next time

 

Barbara Hofmeister

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