Integrate the lessons

On my last trip to London they actually upgraded me to business class on the way back. I thought that was nice of the universe -.) and of British Airways! Something else to be grateful for.

I went to London solely to attend a seminar on NLP and Time Line Therapy. The 2 days were extemely interesting and once more I learned a lot about myself but one of the most interesting conversations I had there were during the break on Sunday with Daniel, a young man I had met at the Self-development Expo a few months earlier.

Daniel asked whether I was going to another event Andy Harrington was doing a couple of weeks later and I said “No, not this time. Why do you ask?” I loved his answer because he said what I thought but had never formulated before.

Here it is: “There are many people who go to the same events again and again. I love going to seminars but I don’t book another one until I have integrated at least one thing I learned at the last one. If I don’t really put what I learn into action there seems to be no point in going.”Isn’t that a wise choice? Thanks Daniel for saying it so eloquently.

I have a friend who did the whole Tony Robbins curriculum including Fidji followed by some heavy doses of NLP but we can’t see any real changes in her. While another friend who has gone to only one Tony Robbins and to one NLP Training has put everything she learned to work and is now making a name for herself as a speech trainer.

These seminars, workshops and books work but only if we use what we learn. When I see this type of change and improvement in one of my “To be” members it makes me feel really proud like a parent when their kids have achieved something. That is what my work is all about. Helping people improve and change their life for the better. Could there be any better?

Love your life and it will love you back!
Barbara

 

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Don’t let anger waste your energy

Anger is something that can control our lifes. If we tend to get upset easily we better learn how to control that anger instead of letting it control us.

Did you know that you use 8-10 times more energy when being angry?

I read this in a medical article but I also know it to be true from my own experiences. Each time I got really upset about something I was completely exhausted afterwards. My father was a very explosive man and I was pretty bad myself when I was young but because one can be very unjust and hurtful in anger I learned to control my outbursts.

I was just chatting in the uncommon forum with a girl who got so angry that she beat up her boyfriend and as a consequence he left her. This is not the first time I hear stuff like that so I will share some of my advice with you.

“…Sounds like you really freaked out and lost the person you loved in consequence. The pain you feel can be very helpful for you to learn an important lesson because scientists have found out that we only change if the pain or the joy we feel is strong enough. In NLP they call it anchoring. Anchor the pain of this loss to something like the snap of your fingers or touching your heart or whatever gesture comes to your mind.

First put yourself into the situation again and add the actual punch, the hurt in your partners eyes etc. until you start feeling how you must have felt after punching him or after realising that he is leaving you because of your violence. Go as deep into the pain as you can and associate a gesture with it. Now each time you feel anger coming up repeat that gesture to feel the consequences. You might need to practise it a few times but this works 100 %.

If that is not enough try time line therapy. Imagine yourself in a moment of anger than leave your body and float above it and watch yourself. Float higher so you can see more of your life line (time line) and look into your future. How will it be if you continue like this?

Now go higher and go back in time to when you were small. When was the first time you felt anger, violence like that? Put yourself in that moment again and watch it from above. Now float back further until you are 15 Minutes before you felt that very first anger. In this moment you were still anger free and can make a decision to not want anger in your life. It’s not worth it…

What you decide here depends very much on you but if done properly you will be anger and violence free. If you can’t do this by yourself find a good hypno-therapist who works with this method. It is fast and very efficient.

I also suggest you stop drinking alcohol or at least drink less. After each drink have at least one glass of water and eat well if you intend to have a drink.

When you feel your anger coming take some slow deep breath into your tummy and count until 10 before reacting. That helps immediately.

All of these methods work IF you use them! Just reading about them will do nothing.

It would be nice if you could let me know what helps you best.

To an anger free life with plenty of Love
Barbara
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Learn at least one Lesson!

Following my crazy flight to London they actually upgraded me to business class on the way back. I thought that was nice of the universe -.) and of British Airways!

I went to London solely to attend a seminar on NLP and Time Line Therapy. The 2 days were extremely interesting and again I learned a lot about myself.

But one conversations I had during the break on Sunday stuck in my mind. Daniel, a young man I had met at the self-development expo a few months earlier,l asked whether I was going to the Anthony Robbins event next month and I said no but I might go again next year. “Why do you ask? Are you going?” I returned. “No, but there are many people who go to the same events again and again. I love going to seminars but I don’t book another one until I have integrated at least one thing I learned at the last one. If I don’t really put what I learn into action there seems to be no point in going.”

Isn’t that a wise choice? Thanks Daniel for saying it so eloquently. I have a friend who did the whole Tony Robbins curriculum including Fidji followed by some heavy doses of NLP but we can’t see any real changes in her. While another friend who has gone to only one Tony Robbins and to one NLP Training has put everything she learned to work and is now making a name for herself as a speech trainer.

These seminars work but only if we use what we learn. When I see this type of movement and improvement in one of my “To be” members it makes me feel really proud like a parent when their kids have achieved something. That is what my work is all about. Helping people improve and change their life for the better. Could there be any better?

I am sure you heard the saying: When the student is ready, the teacher will come. Meaning, when you are ready to understand you will hear the message. In many cases we are not ready for all that books, audio programs or events like “Unleash the Power Within” by Tony Robbins try to teach us and we only get part of the message. But that is ok as long as we get that part and integrate it into our lives.

But more often than not people attend seminars or workshops to get all hyped up and after 2 weeks back in their everyday life, all is forgotten and they are dreaming of the next one. Even though some of my collegues might not be too happy with what I say here but if you don’t take at least one thing from a book you like, a course you do or a seminar you attend and put it into action, you have probably wasted your time.

So after each training event you attend, each self-help book you read, make sure that you take at least one lesson and integrate that into your life before you move on. Time is so precious and there are so many lessons to learn in life that we really have to take what is offered to us and use it to the best of our abilities.

LoveBarbara
www.trainingvisions.com