One of my favorite quotes of all times is from Mark Victor Hansen. He says:

“You are not who you think you are but what you think you are.”

What does that mean?

I means that we see  our self in certain ways but that is not necessarily what the outside sees. For instance, I consider myself pretty hard working while my family thinks I am quite lazy because I don’t have a regular job. For them I am either traveling – which to an employed person means either a vacation or a paid trip for the company – or I am at home not doing anything that is apparent to them. Different perceptions and therefore different outcomes.

The same happens within us. We have a conscious perception of ourself and a subconscious one. The conscious one is what we want to see or what we struggle with constantly (because of our belief system). The subconscious is our belief system. All the things we belief we are and can or can’t do and this creates our re-action to situations and things – automatically.

These are things that were educated into us when we were children and they might have been correct then but today as adults we are different. We can do different things in many different ways, still we tend to react automatically and often repeat the same pattern over and over again, i.e. fall for the wrong partner, make bad investment decisions etc. It is because of a core value we hold or a belief that was formed in our early years. We have talked about that before and you can find in depth information how to improve your values and beliefs in the TO BE book www.thetobebook.com

What Mark Victor Hansen talks about is that our perception of who we are is not reality but with what we think we create our reality. I will talk more about  that giving you example tomorrow.